Am I wrong for questioning my wife?
My wife works in a hospital ED as a crisis nurse. When they had rough long days they sometimes go for a “1 and done” (drink) after the shift to blow off steam. However these turn into like 4-5 and done and her not getting home until 11pm-12am when her shift ended at 7.
I wouldn’t have an issue with this normally, but a text I found a few weeks ago between her and a male security guard coworker was her asking to meet up with him and he kept turning her down, even her saying she hoped to get out early on that Friday (this was a few weeks ago, not today) to see him (which didn’t happen) because he was going away for a few weeks. She even went as far as to say in the text that it would be hard on her with him not being around. Now he’s back….
….she text me a few hours ago (around 9am) that it was really busy there, that one of her girlfriend nurses was working and they were going out after work so this put me on high alert. She has a history of emotional (and I suspect physical) cheating (that she later denied) within our marriage in the last 3 years.
I want to trust her and think she isn’t lying to me, but it’s hard. Very hard. I messed up and didn’t put hard boundaries into place when we met 20 years ago, but I didn’t think I had to. Man, was I gullible and dumb to think so. Hindsight is always 20/20… right..
Am I wrong for being skeptical?
Also, should I ask my wife if this security guard is going to be at the bar tonight? Is it wrong for me to ask that?