u/BouncyMousey

Hi everyone. I am looking for some advice. My 17 year old son had a very bad breakup about a month ago with his first love. They had been having issues and then broke up and her and her friends posted some nasty accusations about him on instagram too. This caused a lot of trauma and him dealing with major depression and suicidal thoughts. We have him in therapy and things are very slowly getting better but he is still so obsessed with her and wants her back so badly that it consumes him. Now she is getting a hold of him and asking him to come see her and talk to and comfort her because she doesn’t have anyone else. He wants to see her and is wanting to try to reconnect and get back together with her and I am at such a loss. She literally tried to ruin his life and he was lucky nothing major happened due to her actions but he is so delusional and desperate for her. We don’t know what to do, I can’t even be in the same room as that girl, what am I supposed to do if they start dating again? We have told him she isn’t allowed in our home and the he starts talking about running away with her (not really possible but the fact that is where his mind goes is wild) My husband wants to forbid him from seeing her but that seems like a disaster waiting to happen too. If they get back together I just know drama will happen again and it will ruin his mental health. It seems like no good option and we lose him somehow either way. I feel so lost with this scenario and can’t believe this is happening. Any advice or thoughts are appreciated.