My boyfriend (31M) and I (23F) have a relationship for 8 months now but we know each other for four years bc same friends
Before we started dating we already had had talks about sex because he is in a group with a couple of my friends and I was talking about experiences with an ex and that I didn't know if I'd like to experiment more because he'd gotten me quite curious but the break-up was out of nowhere. I liked the more rough stuff and wanted to experiment more in that, and since lots of my friends talk openly about their kinky sexlife I confided in them.
When we started dating my boyfriend, R, told me he was a softdom and asked if I would be okay with that. He also stated we could take things slow and had all the time to discover each other. This was fun at first, but I slowly started to notice nothing was really changing or progressing.
I tend to get nervous around sex, even when I really want to, and we've talked about this a lot. We are very open and talk a lot. But I'm just starting to feel like the talks come down to nothing, since he keeps being careful with me. And everytime its a bit more rough or he is a bit more dominant next times it's vanilla again.
Tbh, I'm starting to get bored. I'm not really enjoying our sexlife anymore and don't know how to communicate this without hurting him and while actually changing the situation. If he does not want to do it like this thats fine, but like just tell me. Bc he was talking kinky before I even started about my ex.
Anyway, any tips?