How do I [21f] handle a partner [46m] who insists on open relationship?
I'm 21f and my partner is 46m. He's wealthy and attractive. When he was younger he didn't have much luck with women, but as he got older he did what he believed would attract women.
From 35-45 he was single and seeing a lot of women.
About 3 years ago he decided he wanted to start a family.
The problem is he has a requirement that he can still see other women and be sexual with them whenever he wants (these are usually one time hookups) He says it's "natural" for him as a man, that he worked hard for his position in life and this is part of the reward, and that it's just for sex and doesn't mean anything. He also gives out his number to these women. I am only supposed to be monogamous to him.
He does want it to be an open thing that I know about rather than being secretive about it, but also tends to get tense and defensive if I ask too many questions.
Does he really not care about these women or does he just want to keep his options open while having me as a security net?