I recently moved in with my paternal grandparent after finishing my last term on university so she wouldnt be alone at her age. My nmom who disrespects her mom-in-law keeps making her go to their house to take care of my younger sibling so she can go on liesure trips. She always says some unreasonable request just for me and my grandma to go to their house. Of course, I keep telling her to refuse because if my mom always had her way, she'll just use us as if we're there to serve her.
Now, my maternal granddad came home from abroad and they (mom and maternal grandma) are using him to lure me in back to my parent's house to clean and cook while my grandpa is there. Not once did my graddad ever talked to me nor initiated a conversation between us. I came over and let me tell you how I already regret coming back here.
I'm really dead set on going no contact with my mom and her side of the family. I really wish I can share everything on why I'm left with no choice but to cut them off but I'm so mentally exhausted with them already so tldr is that my nmom belittles and disrespects my dad and my paternal grandma because they came from a broken and poor family. She uses both of them to the ppint that my dad look like he's about to collapse from exhaustion. If theyre both unavailable, she verbally abuses me, belittles my achievements and uses me to basically do everything around the house while I'm expected to maintain my top spot at university. She views my love for animals as dramatic and views animals as playthings that were meant to be discarded if sick. Her side of the family are enablers and they do not listen to anyone but her. Her family resorted to trying to tempt me with huge amounts of money to keep me within their reach but I've been collecting money they gave and left it untouched in case they use it against me‐ and I could just dump all the money they gave me infront of them and vanish without a trace.
So yeah, I want and NEED to cut her off but I want to stay in contact with my dad and sisters. Its just so hard and theres so many shit I left out but trust me when I say that I'd rather die than live with her again. I dont know what to do. my sisters already dislike her because they also receive the same treatment from her. I cant let them think that i abandoned them.. I have a plan to contact my dad when i delete everything from the internet but my sisters are too young to involve with this type of mess.
I wish my mom just became a good person and ponder over her actions.. I knew since I was a kid that she never bothered being a proper mom to me nor a wife to my dad.. I wish they just separate