u/Boterhamke

Hey. I am wirh my boyfriend, I’ve been with him for 2 months and started having ROCD (I think) thoughts 3 weeks into our official relationship. I had liked him for 2 months at that point and was absolutely smitten. My thoughts have become worse and I feel as if I lost all feelings at this point…

1. What are practical things to feel my emotions for him, I am afraid they are fully gone but don’t want to think about that..

2. Is there a way to reignite the spark?

3. Do you guys have any experience with this?

thanks for reading and maybe commenting <33

I have not been diagnosed with anything. I’ve been dating my bf for about.. 6 weeks. We met through Hinge and I was head over heels for him. We dated for 3 months before making it official.

I am hypersensitive and my body started tensing about 3 weeks ago. It was without reason, I had experienced this tensing of my chest before and that took a period of 8 months before it went away utterly destroying my life. I felt this again, the only thing that’s different in my life is my relationship. I started feeling a little more distant to my bf, we had spend like 4/7 days a week together since being together that month. I started thinking: why do I feel like this? And then I started stressing, why do I feel like this? I started thinking: what if it’s because of my old relationship patterns etc etc. i started thinking of a lot of possibilities and then thought: what if I don’t like him anymore? I started thinking about this more and more, like everyday, and checking in on my body to feel the feeling. Then feeling the tenseness, feeding into my thought loop. I feel like I have lost feelings at this point and it makes me so sad and anxious, actually debilitating my relationship and my everyday life. I really care for him and love being with him and when I’m with him I still get a little sad and sometimes thoughts but it’s so much calmer and my body calms as well… It’s just that I think about this and feel tense 24/7 while I really don’t want to, and I think that’s what’s making me loose connection to my feelings, but I’m not sure :(

Does this sound as ROCD or more like I’m actually loosing feelings?