Guys: would this make you ghost someone?
I know a lot of people don’t consider it ghosting if you guys never met irl, but I met this guy on a dating app and we texted for about a month (outside of the dating app). We always said it was a no-strings-attached thing. It had to be anyway because we didn’t even live in the same country, so we just talked for fun.
But we talked a lot. We’d stay up until like 3am texting, flirting, talking about life, relationships, insecurities, religion, politics, everything. One night, he asked for a nude (he had sent before but I hadn’t), so I sent one and he reacted positively. I had never done that before and he knew that. Also, kinda unrelated but I also sent a normal video of my face that night before sexting which I usually didn’t do (he had only seen photos of me), and he also reacted positively.
The next day, I texted him something and he didn’t reply for like 4 hours and… bear with me here… for some reason I panicked. He usually answered fast and I knew he wasn’t busy that day, so I acted really needy/clingy and sent semi-long messages basically calling him out on ghosting me (yes, after only 4 hours), but then I unsent them after a few minutes although I’m sure he saw them. Then a few hours later I asked if he was ok and he never responded. After a few days I also deleted that last message.
I know this is psycho behavior for someone I never even met and agreed to keep things casual with. I genuinely don’t know what came over me. I think it was the fact that I’d never done that before and suddenly felt used or like he wasn’t attracted to me anymore after seeing me in the video or something. I’m a very insecure person so I just spiraled.
Now after a few weeks I feel so embarrassed and filled with questions that I know nobody but him can answer, and I’m obviously not going to text him again.
So from a guy’s perspective: why do you think I got ghosted?
Because he didn’t like how I looked? Post-nut clarity after sexting? Or because the spam messaging/unsending turned him off?
I’m just confused because I personally wouldn’t ghost someone like that even if I got bored or lost interest. I would’ve at least said “chill” or slowly let the conversation die instead of disappearing after talking so often for a month.