Me:16 year old F
Him:19 year old M
My brother says he wont talk to me until i change my personality. He says that if he was in my place he would have changed for me.
Basically this "personality" he is referring to is all the following: reading books on the balcony, making coffee, decorating my bag and earphones, watching what others watch, wanting to try different types of tea, etc.
He says all those stuff are cringe. And that i'm mirroring the girls in my school and the people i see online. He isn't wrong, i want to be like others and i think that's natural? I think it's normal to want to try matcha because its trending or watch a series because i heard my friends talk about it. He says im acting like americans and i should act like the people in my country.
I think i simply act like girls though? I think he is so used to the me that was unsocial and that only watched what he watched and only spent time with him and when my personality mirrored his.
Also to clarify, i won't drink coffee if i didnt like it. I wont continue a show that my friends watch if it isnt for me. I dont force myself to change for others.
He mentioned the word "cringe" a thousand times while talking to me about this. Is it really that cringe? Is following others and taking bits and pieces of them wrong?
TL;DR:
My brother thinks my personality is wrong because i follow what other girls my age do.