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Let’s keep things positive and happy ❤️

Ako, I received a beautiful bouquet from my hubby. He knows how much I love, love, love flowers (dati pa sinasabi ko na yun lang yung isang bagay I wouldn’t buy for myself kasi Kaya ko bilan sarili ko ng cake, clothes, makeup, etc. Pero flowers kasi diba? Ang weird for me to “surprise” myself with it na may occasion) and alam nyang super taas ng standards ko when it comes to bouquets kaya umoorder sya sa mga shala na florists talaga at nag e-effort syang mag IG tuwing may okasyon haha Also, I order flowers there din for my mom and I know the range kaya alam kong he really worked hard for that gift 🌸🌸

Super saya ko lang kasi until today pag nakikita ko yung bouquet naha-happy and kinikilig pa din ako 🥰 Plus the letter that came with it just made my heart flutter ❤️ Hanggang ngayon nag te-thank you pa din ako cos he got me super beautiful flowers.

How about you? What did your husbands/partners gave you whether big or small that made you super happy?

So today, our Yaya/All-around KB left. Nag render naman sya ng resignation period of about a month and she was able to train her kapalit for 5 days pero grabe no? Nakaka attach din talaga 😢

Napaka ayos niya kasi, para siyang PA na Yaya. Pag nasa bahay, wala akong kaylangan iutos - lahat kusa. Magaling mag luto, malinis, organized, masipag, maaasahan sa lahat ng bagay (even pera). For almost 1 year, panatag and halos wala akong inisip dahil kahit pamamalengke siya gumagawa. Pinaka gusto ko pa? Nakita ko yung high standards din nya sa pag aalaga sa anak ko. Ang sarap pakinggan ng halakhak ng toddler ko when they are playing. She feeds my baby patiently - napataba nya actually kasi she’s really patient in feeding her and very mindful of her snack times, and I was at peace when we left them together at home because I know my toddler was in good hands.

Nung paalis na sya kanina umiiyak siya, naiyak din tuloy ako. I am very very grateful for her. Sakanya ko lang binigay yung 20k salary for a KB because she deserves it, and sabi ko sakanya before if magtatagal sya at Kaya na namin, itataas ko pa. I really wished na nag tagal sya samin dahil minahal na din namin sya. I really liked how she handled the household and our daughter plus may padating pa ko on the way. But she found her greener pasture abroad, and we have no choice but to let her go 💔

I expressed our gratefulness naman and nahiya na din ako na mag nobela pa at naiyak iyak na kami pareho. But if I can, I’ll say this pa. I, thank you ha. Sobra mong pinag tiyagaan ang anak namin. You loved her like your own kahit wala ka pang anak. Hindi ko pinapahawakan ang anak ko pero nakita ko kung gano ka ka-gentle at kabait sakanya. Thank God sa pahinga na nakuha naming mag asawa dahil sayo. I pray pag nag asawa ka na, sabi mo in 2-yrs, ma bless din kayo ng mga anak. I’m sure your family will be very well taken care of. You deserve all the love and success. God bless you in your bright future ❤️

I grew up coming from a well to do family. Successful business owner parents, great schools for us 4 siblings, traveled the world, grew up with Nannies, big houses in the province and Manila and some designer things. You know, that kind of life most would label “pang mayaman”.

When I graduated, my parents taught me never to ask money from them and to stand with my own two feet. Of course it was ok dahil even with the lifestyle they provided, di naman talaga kami spoiled or inispoil. I did ok, tried two jobs in good companies and many many years later, established businesses of my own - got married and now expecting my 2nd child.

My husband is a working class guy earning about 120k per month. In total, we earn about 400k gross with business and his work. Pero alam nyo nakaka p*ny*ta? Hindi yun enough. We racked up 5M in debts (Kasama car loan, business loan and a loan from my dad). Everything goes to our business expenses (rent and pasweldo), payment of loans, bills payment, basic needs and necessities. Wala pa kaming luho nito except for giving the best products for our daughter and a pantry filled with food all the time.

Hindi sya enough kasi, if we want to maintain our lifestyle, wipe off our debts and have a good Emergency Fund and savings, with the goal of getting a townhouse pa in a good area - 30to45M yun, Sending our kids to a similar league school would cost at least 100k just for kinder. And I tried computing, dahil miss na miss ko na mag travel. A 2 wk stay in Japan (like what we used to do with my parents) for our family would cost 400-500k all-in.

Nakakapang liit to see the reality that I can’t afford the life my parents gave me for myself and kids YET. Realistically, I can’t downgrade my preferences (Since I was accustomed to it na my whole life) - like sa bahay, Hindi ko naman magustuhan tumira sa super layo or maliit na bahay. They gave us a spacious 2BR condo by the way when I got pregnant, for their apo “daw” para comfortable kami. I also wouldn’t feel settled if I sent my kids to a public school when my parents sent me to an international school pa nga. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to insult. My point is, being raised up as an upper middle class can be extremely frustrating when you can’t afford it on your own. May cons din sya.

And a hard reality check that hit me like a ton of bricks is it’s so hard to get that comfortable, secure lifestyle lalo na kung nafifeel mong malayo ka pa. Sometimes it feels almost impossible but I don’t just want to get by, I want to enjoy life in abundance for us and our kids and I also want security. Yung kahit magkasakit kami, we won’t be afraid to get checked and admit ourselves. Yung Hindi ka matatakot sa kahit anong emergency because you have enough. And the realistic cost of that? An income of AT LEAST 700k per month FOR US. To live well, travel, save, build emergency funds, invest and to have some to pass down to our kids in the future. Wishing everyone a speckle of luck and financial abundance. I pray we all get to that level of security. ✨

Our KB/Yaya of 10 months is leaving in 5 days and I can’t help but be sad. She initially applied as KB lang but she was so good with my daughter. She played with her, fed her, sobrang tiyaga with her (she’s 19 months) genuinely cared for her and she was a perfect KB as well. Wala akong masabi sa work nya. Pulido, malinis and ugali was good din. Very trustworthy. Natutuwa ako that her approach in play is like a nursery teacher, Panay sila books and learning. Sinusunod nya yung no screen time rule ko and her English is also good, so ok sa daughter ko.

Nasa-sad lang ako for my baby, while I’m always around naman - I’m also pregnant and we really need someone to play and care for her when I’m busy with our businesses and need to rest. I think about my daughter na need nanaman mag adjust :( I hope we find another yaya who will take care of her the same way.

How do you mommies deal with some form of attachment with your KBs?

Ako, I’m trying to think nalang na this is just another job/transaction for her since this is the 2nd time na din na nag paalam sya. She’s going abroad for better pay btw. Yung first attempt nya nagpaalam sya mag Sa-Saudi na sya, the offer was 25k and pinantayan ko just so she’ll stay. But this time, Germany na sya and 75k salary daw lol wala akong balak pantayan yon. Hahaha I said naman kung San sila aasenso, go lang. She’s a breadwinner din kasi and planning to get married Kaya ano pa bang gagawin ko diba. Just can’t help but be a little sad. Attachment ba to? Or I’m just sad kasi baka di katulad nya yung susunod? 🥲

My husband has been looking for WFH for a while now, preferably bookkeeping in AU or US.

No luck for those roles but he luckily landed a job just last April (1st week). His goal was to get at least 150k, willing to go down at 120k but they only gave him 90k ($1,500 USD) for an Accounting Team Lead role (He’s already a division head and has 17yrs of experience btw). Sabi nya, might as well accept it just to get into the WFH world or have exp for a US company since he’ll just be home anyways and thought the role wouldn’t be too hectic.

FF 3 weeks later, he’s so overworked since he’s just a one-man team in the whole Finance dept. He’s doing the billing, collections, payroll and time keeping for about 200 VAs, HMO - I said isn’t that HR work? But he said bago palang daw kasi company and they don’t have established departments. Almost every night there’s a meeting on top of his work, plus pasingit work. His work is originally 8Pm-5Am pero until 9 or 10 AM minsan he’s still working. And the moment he wakes up, he does some work dahil kung Hindi matatambakan din daw sya. He’s really finding it toxic already.

How would you guys deal with this? Do you think he should resign na? The COO is promising that they’re hiring another accounting staff already. But parang ang need for their team is at least four pa pero isa lang ang iha-hire.