I’m (23F) got pregnant by my FWB(27M)
TL;DR: Found out I’m pregnant by my long-term FWB after taking two Plan Bs 😭 We’ve basically been acting like a couple again lately, but he’s avoided commitment because he plans to rejoin the military and worries about uprooting me and my daughter. I’m scared of being a single mom of two, but I also don’t think I want to terminate.
I genuinely don’t know what to do and I need advice from people who maybe have been through something similar 😭
So me and this guy have been friends for years. About 2 years ago he moved to my town and we started hooking up. At first it was more relationship-ish, then it turned into more of a FWB situation. But over the past few months it started feeling relationship-like again. We’ve been hanging out constantly, going on trips together, spending entire weekends together, acting like a couple honestly.
The biggest reason he’s never fully committed is because he plans on rejoining the military eventually, and I already have a child from a previous relationship. He’s told me multiple times that he really does like me, but he doesn’t want to end up moving me and my daughter away from her father and everything she knows. So it’s always been this weird “right person, wrong timing” situation.
Well… we went away together for a weekend and now I just found out I’m pregnant.
And before anyone asks… YES I took Plan B. Twice actually. Clearly my body said “lol absolutely not” because somehow I’m still pregnant 😭
I’m honestly freaking out. I know he’s always wanted to be a dad and I genuinely think he would be a good father. But I’m terrified of ending up a single mom of two. My first pregnancy and postpartum experience were HARD and I cannot imagine doing all of that alone again.
At the same time, I really don’t think I want to terminate the pregnancy. I already feel attached and the thought makes me emotional.
I guess I just don’t know:
-how to even tell him
-if this changes anything between us relationship-wise
-if I’m being delusional for hoping maybe this could push us toward becoming a real family
-or if I need to prepare myself mentally to do this alone
I’m stressed beyond belief and could really use advice or stories from anyone who’s been in a similar situation 😭