To make an incredibly long story short: my SD’s BM checked out, for lack of better term.
It’s been two months. In those two months she has called SD one time. She has not asked how SD is. She has not asked what we told her. She’s missed major milestones. She hasn’t responded to updates or pictures sent at SD’s request. SD is 8. We had 50/50 before this.
She reached out asking to return to normal (yeah okay buddy) and then missed the phone call DH scheduled to discuss.
A week later she reaches out to inform DH she has no finances. No gas. No groceries. But this situation - the one she created all on her own - is just so painful for her.
Again, no questions about SD.
DH reminds her she can take SD to the park or call.
But she has no gas she says.
DH suggests she establish phonecalls.
Then she doesn’t reply.
I rationally understand that she wanted sympathy. Or money. Or a rude message so she could feel like this is DH’s fault and not hers.
But also, rationally, what exactly did you expect from that? Yes take the child who you’ve pretended doesn’t exist for the last two months! As a matter of fact here’s a new car with gas for life!!!!!! And of course, everything will go back to totally normal because we can just erase your kids memory. And when you’re no longer using your daughter as an emotional crutch and she’s ’too much’ for you, we’ll just take her back like we always do. No worries.
I just want to scream into the void today. I wish this woman would fully commit to disappearing.