Men who wanted kids but never got to - does the want ever go away?
29m that's wanted to be a father since I was a kid. The want waned in my early 20s but came back with intensity around 25 or so.
But as I make the march towards 30 having never even had a date, let alone a girlfriend or interest at all from women, kinda have to face reality that it's not happening. However the want and desire kinda eats me alive.
I've tried to just *do* more, picked up airsoft and billiards as hobbies, I go to the gym, learned to actually cook fairly complex little meals for myself. Hoping to pick up motorcycling and snowboarding this winter/next summer too.
Tried therapy for like a year and felt like I was getting nothing out of it aside from spending Canada Life's insurance money on it lol.
But those 12am thoughts and wants and regrets still dominate my mental space whenever I stop doing stuff. Just wanna know from others if that goes away, or how you were able to get them to at least ease.
And yea I know all the "but such and such met his wife and had kids in his 30s". Probably didnt have literally 0 dating history going in though lol. So, I'm not super interested in those anecdotes or being told to just try. I tried, I failed. Is what it is.