My youngest is 4, almost 5, and level 2 autistic. Non verbal. But she’s smart and honestly the sweetest little girl. I also have a 16 and 11 year old whom I have full custody of. No visits, no child support (even though I’m owed over $50,000 at this point.) Dad of my youngest has kiddo slightly more than me, because he works from home. I have her 3 days, he has her 4.
The school scheduled the PPT to plan summer school and kindergarten for my little. It was originally scheduled for yesterday, at the same time I had a dentist appointment for my older kids. The dentist is booked out for months so rescheduling was not really possible. The school said they’d get back to me. Never did, so I asked my ex if he can just fill me in. Yesterday the dentist was hectic, one big kid got fillings so I had to rush to find soup instead of the dinner we had planned. After that i had sent my ex a text unrelated but he never responded so I didn’t end up asking about the PPT.
Well they rescheduled it for today. And nobody told me. Ex only found out because his personal Gmail calendar is synched with his work email calendar. So he got notified 15 minutes prior. He didnt tell me.
The meeting was a typical meeting, she’s making progress. But they say kiddo is “moody.” They recommend asking the pediatrician.
The preschool at the public school is 2 hours and 45 minutes a day, 4x a week. It’s right after lunch…. You know, the typical time a 3-4 year old naps??? Of course she’s moody.
But my ex says “they said we have to stop babying her… don’t look at me like that, I do it too.” I said she isn’t moody most of the time with me. Shes only moody when there’s changes to her routine or if she’s tired. Or having a sensory overload and I’m good at preventing that because I’m also autistic.
She isn’t babied. Avoiding unnecessary triggers isn’t babying her.
When we broke up 3 years ago, my ex started giving kiddo milk in a baby bottle at night. She stopped drinking milk unless it’s in a bottle because of that. He definitely does baby her.
But her behavior is worse for him. She is not potty trained. She is big for her age and wears pull ups. She will take them off when she poops at his house. And fingerpaint… and she doesn’t do that at my house. Shes his only kid.
It’s just so frustrating that the school labeled her as moody and wants us to get the pediatrician involved… when class is at nap time for a 3-4 year old! And that ex let them convince him that it’s not that, we must be babying her…
The school she is going to for kindergarten is at the other elementary school in town, so she will only maybe have a few of the same adults (the speech therapist probably) but it’s full day, and kindergarten does a nap after lunch. So hopefully we have a different experience in the fall.