Hey reddit,
so I met a cool woman at a club and the vibe was really really good between us, so we went back to my place later and wanted to have sex. It would have been my first time having sex, but unfortunately it didn’t go as well as I’d hoped. I don’t know if it was because I still had little alcohol left in my system or because it was my first time, but my penis didn’t get hard enough. It had been pretty stiff, but not stiff enough to be really hard—somewhere in between. Anyway, that meant I couldn’t get it in, no joke. Before that, we’d had a little foreplay to get each other more turned on, but that didn’t seem to help much either. In the end, she said we should stop and that there was no point in trying any further. She started crying and blamed herself, saying she didn’t look pretty enough for me and couldn’t really turn me on, but on the contrary, I was totally turned on. I quickly comforted her and made it clear that it wasn’t her fault at all, but mine. I felt so sorry for her at that moment because I completely ruined the mood for her, that’s not going to leave me anytime soon :(
But at least we’re meeting again soon, and I want to be prepared so that everything works out this time. Should I drink caffeine beforehand for better blood circulation and avoid alcohol? The fact that regular exercise, especially strength training, is supposed to promote better blood circulation for Sex is nothing new to me, but since I've been going to the gym regularly for years, I find it hard to believe this.
So if you have any tips for my next time please let me know :)