(26m) met a girl about the same age as me in real life at a bar through mutual friends and we really hit it off that night. Kissed and exchanged numbers, the next week we set up a date and it went really well, and then the next week we had another date which was also awesome. It was really romantic. I went on a trip that was a bit on the longer side (2 weeks) but I was really straightforward and told her I’d hit her up when I got back and would love to continue this when I’m home. We weren’t really texting while I was away or anything, we were still getting to know eachother and only really texting to set up plans.
I came home and messaged her, after a few days she replies saying she’d love to hang again, I reply pretty quickly suggesting some days just trying to see when she’s free but then .. crickets. That was 2 weeks ago and I just can’t stop thinking about her. Our connection felt very real, in the era of dating apps I was so stoked to have met someone in person and have had it going well. I know it was just 3 times seeing eachother including when we met but I was really starting to feel something. Now I’m not talking to anybody and just have 0 motivation to get on dating apps and try to meet other girls. I try to get my mind off her and not look at her social media (she’s actively posting stories and stuff) but it’s hard. I really liked her and just wonder if I did something weird, said something wrong, did someone tell her something about me she didn’t like .. if after a couple dates she decided she’s not really that into me I would accept and respect it, I respect her and her boundaries and would just love to know what happened, and be able to be friendly and cordial moving forward. We have mutual friends and live in the same city so we may run into eachother. I figure she just lost interest but then why message saying you’d love to hang? It’s confusing. Is it another dude, busy life, ..? I just want to know man ..
It’s been over 2 weeks since no reply, well over a month since we’ve seen eachother .. so it’s probably cooked .. but in my head it’s still every day .. it hurts dude .. and I’m not even talking to people around me about it cause people just tell me “get over it” “that’s early dating bro, it’s part of the game, get back in the field” but idk man I really liked her…. And now I feel emotionally drained like I have nothing else to give to new girls who may be out there … and I’m not even that focused on sex … feeling an emotional connection felt better than the best sex on earth … I felt that with her but then she just disappeared with no explanation .. but I’m still seeing her stories she’s out there doing shit .. and so am I .. working .. hobbies .. day trips .. but she’s still on my mind all the time .. why bro .. wish I could just forget .. and there’s an urge to text again but idk what id even say this point .. and it just feels wrong to reach out again after getting ghosted once