My (14f) dad (42m) has been making sexist comments, checking where I am all the time, always asking me to stay at his house and has anger issues.
My dad has had a rough time with women in his life (I won’t be specific) and so now his opinions about women are awful and often leads him to make sexist remarks. Such as “all brides are bridezillas“ and things like “women expect men to read their minds” and “women are always indecisive” and much more and it’s hurtful.
My family uses the app Life360 to see where each of us are (Life360 is a tracking app if you don’t know what it is) we have two separate groups as my parents aren’t together anymore, one group with my mum and I and another group with my dad and I (I’m an only child). My dad checks that app all the time even when it’s my mums time which makes my mum and I feel incredibly watched and stalked. On addition to him checking it all the time he also asks me about where I’ve been and then if I don’t mention a place that he’s obviously checked using Life360 he gets frustrated and questions me about it.
My mum and my dad have shared custody of me. My mum has main custody and my dad gets dinners two nights a week (I don’t stay the night on those days) and every second weekend and half of every holidays. My dad is incredibly lonely and I’m basically the only thing he has and so he always asks me to stay more than what I usually stay. He always says it’s my decision and I should decide what I want to do with the custody arrangements but then when he asks me to stay with him and I say I don’t want to he gets angry. Now I’m more feeling like something he just wants to win and an object, I feel like he doesn’t actually care about me as a person but just wants to feel like he’s won and he just likes the idea of me.
My dad has always had anger issues ever since I can remember and I’ve been scared of him ever since I can remember because of this (well at least I think that’s why) he yells when he gets angry and if we are in the car he drives fast or recklessly. A few years ago I was sick with a cold and I needed medicine. I had taken the same medicine the day before and I knew how much to take and he read the box and thought I needed a different amount and it turned into an argument, eventually he got so angry that he shoved the box into my face and stormed off.
Ever since I was a kid my dad has fed me incredibly unhealthy foods and huge portions of food. Take away three nights a week possibly more and portions bigger than what my mum would eat, almost twice the size my mum would eat. There was never any exercise and there still isn’t, and when my mum brought it up to my dad and told him I was gaining weight almost 12 times the amount I was meant to at my age when I was a young child and he still ignored it and nothing changed. So now I am overweight and things aren’t changing still.
2 years ago I did have a period of time where I didn’t see him and I wrote him a letter telling him all of these reasons but everything is still happening.
When I told my dad I was cutting him off he cried and I didn’t feel a thing. Now it’s been a month and I’m not replying to his texts and calls. I get massive anxiety and because he always checks Life360 I’m scared and anxious that he’s going to show up somewhere I am.
So AITAH for not feeling a thing while my dad cried because I didn’t want to see him anymore?
And AITAH for cutting my dad out of my life and not replying to his calls or texts?