Adhd Partner withdraws when I Show affection
I've been with my partner for only 3 months and the last weeks he's been really distant, so I told him that I feel like our connection feels really distant rn and if we can reconnect and spend some time together. But eveytime I bring up that I miss him or I wanna see him, he dissappear for days and won't answer. The first time I was in a bad spiral bcs of that (note: I have bpd) i didn't where and why he was gone. And only as I told him that I give him a day to reply, he answered.
He finally replied and just said that he was really busy and doesn't have the energy to always answer ppl. Which is fine, and I told him so that I know that sometime things get rough and he doesn't have to worry if he tells me in advance that he's not doing well and need space.
Then ignored that message and kept texting like nothing happend, no real explanation or apology. I mean I can tell he's making efforts to keep in touch, even if it's difficult for him. But he keeps avoiding big and difficult talks. Which for me communication is key in a relationship ship.
So I texted him a few days ago if we can meet up in the weekend bcs we havnt seen eachother for almost a months (also no phone calls) but as you can guess he's ghosting me now. So I don't know what to do. This time I will give him his space but idk when or if he will come back.