u/Boneyabba

Looking for two books or whatever that are either quality do it yourself survival guides or field reference manuals or packs of laminate skill sheets...

I'm outfitting two go bags that are almost roleplaying for all the actual use they would get, but whatever and I'd like to include one book-like-thing in each. With the idea that they are both worthwhile alone, but that they compliment one another.

Suggestions?

I got an auto warning, but I think this post counts. I am prepping these bags, but wanting educational materials for survival.

I live in a very humid climate with a, basically, outdoor shop. Like a carport. I use a lot of expanded metal which is almost impossible to sand and quite difficult to paint as well. The rest of my steel is probably pretty poor quality. I don't think I have the discipline in my workflow to paint the raw metal- is that the only answer? Any other suggestions? Often the rust is sort of bright orange and almost furry- what does that tell me about the steel?

Hobbyist.

I am constantly over welding. It's like a compulsion. Any suggestions for recalibrating my brain? Like... Maybe some rules of thumb like... 4 tacks is the same as a 6mm bolt?

Wife and I adopted two boys about a year and a half ago. 8 and 12. They are her nephews. We are in a third world country there are essentially no resources.

The situation the boys were in was pretty bad. The mother and grandmother engaged in hardcore favoritism with the younger boy. Like, skipped birthdays for the older boy... Any problem was blamed on the older boy while the younger was showered with affection and given extra food and sweets... Younger was allowed to cheat at games etc... The grandfather is a power alcoholic and the boys had a background soundtrack of abusive screaming pretty much every day from early afternoon until they were asleep.

The younger one is doing a decent job of adapting to altered expectations. I am very confident there. His brother is stone faced, withdrawn, and has zero concern for others feelings, rules, whatever. We've discussed the previous situation and how we are trying to get things on tracks- essentially no response. He can laugh and joke and play and it seems genuine, but he can shift from happy kid to stone face in a heartbeat.

We are currently in an arms race with screentime where he is losing the phone for longer and longer periods and basically loses the phone the day he gets it back. He is smart and it's definitely not a case of him not understanding the parameters or the discipline to track himself.

I'm not sure what to do. How do you connect with/get through to a kid with that sort of background?

Wife and I adopted two boys about a year and a half ago. 8 and 12. They are her nephews. We are in a third world country there are essentially no resources.

The situation the boys were in was pretty bad. I suspect some SA with the older boy, he says nothing happened. The mother and grandmother engaged in hardcore favoritism with the younger boy. Like, skipped birthdays for the older boy. Any problem was blamed on the older boy while the younger was showered with affection and given extra food and sweets allowed to cheat at games etc. The grandfather is a power alcoholic and the boys had a background of abusive screaming pretty much every day from early afternoon until they were asleep.

The younger one is doing a decent job of adapting to altered expectations. I am very confident there. His brother is stone faced, withdrawn, and has zero concern for others feelings, rules, whatever. We've discussed the previous situation and how we are trying to get things on tracks- essentially no response. He can laugh and joke and play and it seems genuine, but he can shift from happy kid to stone face in a heartbeat.

We are currently in an arms race with screentime where he is losing the phone for longer and longer periods and basically loses the phone the day he gets it back. He is smart and it's definitely not a case of him not understanding the parameters or the discipline to track himself.

I'm not sure what to do. How do you connect with/get through to a kid with that sort of background?