AITA for not driving a friend to a city to ensure bride’s wedding cake isn’t ruined?
My(24F) friend Katy(25F) has been trying to launch a wedding cake business. She started advertising using stock images and when she was talking to some people they asked if she took a course and she said yes. I asked her about it afterwards and she said she hasn’t taken any really but didn’t want to admit that to people so they trust her and hire her.
She’s done some very small cake examples since then. To me they’re not professional quality or wedding cake worthy but maybe if she’s offering cheap prices to get started it’s justified and she can improve with practice.
Our mutual friend Lily (26F) is getting married tomorrow and since the start of the year Katy pressured her into letting her do her wedding cake. She didn’t so much as ask but just tell her she’ll do it and said she’ll only charge for ingredients and materials. Lily is a bit of a pushover so ended up saying okay without any discussion. Katy said her goal was to use this to kick start her business with a cake she’s made for a real wedding.
Yesterday evening with one day left to go till the wedding Katy asked me to drive her the next day to get specific ingredients for the cake that she can only source from another city. She knew I had taken a day off and whilst Katy drives too she refuses to drive out of the local area as she’s scared. I said I can’t as I specially took the day off to prepare for the wedding, everything I need to pick up for my outfit, wedding present, get my hair done etc. I also expressed shock that with 1 day to go she still needed to source essential ingredients for the cake.
Katy got angry pulling a face and said “Tut why didn’t you get all your stuff done already then?” as if I was really disorganised and had messed up. I said I didn’t need to get it done by now, I’ve taken a day off specially to do it all. Katy said if I didn’t take her then the cake was going to be ruined, I said I’m sorry but I can’t and she’s known for months about this cake she was desperate to make.
I spent the day getting my errands done, then this evening we all met for a pre-wedding gathering. When Katy was coming towards me she had an accusing and angry look and said “I had to go on the train by myself” as if I made her suffer, and how it was really hard, took ages to get to station, wait for train, walk to the place and the same thing back. How she almost wasn’t able to make it and it drastically cut down the time she had to work on the cake. She then looked away as if she can’t bear to be around me.
She’s since expressed to people that I wasn’t willing to help ensure the wedding cake wasn’t ruined for the bride.
I know I didn’t do anything wrong here technically but when she framed it like that it did give me pause, that even though Katy was wrong should I have actually dropped my stuff and still done it for the sake of ensuring things weren’t ruined for the bride?
I didn’t ask how the cake has gone and I don’t know what to expect tomorrow.