AITAH for walking out of my birthday dinner?
This happened back in December but I need some advice.
My mom had my birthday off work and asked if I wanted to do anything for my birthday. I'm vegetarian so I picked my favourite vegetarian restaurant in my city. My mom said my dad wouldn't like it which is fair so I picked another restaurant that has a vegetarian menu as well as food I know my dad will eat.
My mom said we actually couldnt go there either because my brother had to go to a work Christmas party and he'd be sad if I didn't get to see him. It kind of miffed me because she took that specific day off work instead of another day but she was insistent that he had to go because it was a work thing and it will look bad if he doesn't. There have also been times when I lived with my parents that would speficially wait until I was at work or school to eat out so they wouldnt have to get anything for me (this was before I was vegetarian so I literally have no idea why they did this) so I know if the situation was reversed they still would've went.
My mom said they we would get pizza. Im not really a big pizza person but it is literally the only takeout food that has food that both me and my dad will eat.
The day of I went over and my brother was still there. He said he was only gonna go to the work party for like an hour and then come back and I was really peeved off because then what was the point of everything so I just left. I found out later my mom cried the rest of the night.
I found out last week the real reason we didn't go to the second restaurant was my mom thinks it's a scam, we went there one time with a big group and they charged a 15% tip automatically so she thinks they were scamming her. I told her its normal at most restaurants and she said its not, most restaurants offer a discount if you go in with a big group but I've honestly never heard of that happening but maybe it's just me.
I feel like I should have just compromised, this happened almost half a year ago and ny parents are still talking about it so I feel like I might have really made a mistake and should've just compromisrd but also I feel like choosing what I want to eat for my birthday isn't a big deal. AITA?