AmITheJerk to insist on mothersday kitsch?
so i (f,36) have three kids (5, 2, 4months) with my husband.
somehow, i like the idea of mothers day. and i have told my husband, lets call him Dan, several times. and every year, mothers day ends in a fiasko and me crying.
for fathers day, i bought a kids book each year featuring a story revolving around a dad for him to read with the kids and wrote him a card and got the kids to at least quote something that i can add and get them to draw something.
Dan, on the other hand, forgets mothersday completly, or hands me a bar of chocolate with the words „oh, happy mothersday“ and thats it. I told him every year, that i just want to feel appreciated on this day. Nothing fancy. Just a card, and 2 minutes of „thank you for what you are doing every day for the kids“.
this year, he tried. He wanted to get me a book that i talked about a couple of weeks ago, but it took to long to ship, he wanted to get me purple socks but couldnt find any at the store and was too late to order them online.
because i didnt want to be disappointed again, i told him that i would love a peeled pomegrenate and a package of flower seeds (2€). I didnt get either. Kid 6 forgot a drawing at kindergarden and he didnt remind the kid to say happy mothersday, kid 2 couldnt be bothered to draw anything (fair enough)
his stance is, that mothersday is just a construct, “indulgence“ (the medieval church one, dont know if thats a common thing to refer to in english) was a word he used, and it feels wrong to be forced to do something on that specific day. He also doesnt care about fathersday, so i shouldnt about mothersday.
should i just get over it and let it go?