u/BlueberryAsleep9095

Edit: There is very limited information on this post to keep it from being a book..! We have been together since we were in high school, we moved out when we were 18 and had our son two years ago. He was born with gastroschisis very early and was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis. The care for him is very low maintenance, he is a very normal kid! He does have a feeding tube and we have to do vests everyday. We bought our house from bfs grandparents who moved into a retirement home and sold it to us very cheap.. it’s also not a very big house. Adding another baby was something we have talked about in the past as we do okay financially together. But would struggle apart.. we’re on his insurance with work but don’t receive any outside help.. I am very ignorant about how leaving him will affect medical costs with our son and myself as I am pregnant again. I don’t have family close.. so I feel as though if I pack my bags and just walk out the front door I’ll be walking into sleeping in my car (,dirty laundry, nowhere to put/send our medical supplies, no home cooked meals) and nowhere else to go. He has said the only reasoning in doing this is due to his friends and other colleagues influencing it and thinking he was “cool” or whatever for “bagging the hot girl at work”. And he said he didn’t know if he loves me because he was embarrassed. I’ve also mentioned this was completely out of the blue, he did talk to a couple girls when we were still in high school but after he found out we were pregnant things changed and he was completely devoted & dedicated to me since. We don’t usually fight, & never anything big. We have dates often he’s very caring and loving. I really believed we were in love and happy. I do think it’s time for something new though, even if that is on my own. I’m not sure about the new baby, & I think this is going to be a slow process as I’d like to be as prepared as I can be before I just react and put me and my child in an unsafe situation. But I’m going to talk to some family and hopefully some other resources that have been mentioned here and I’m going to be okay! This will be the hardest thing I’ll ever do, but I also know there’s is better things for me and my son. Thank you for all the kind works and harsh reality…❤️

Hi! I’m coming to Reddit because I don’t really have anyone to talk to. The day after Mother’s Day I found out my(F22) boyfriend(M22) of 5 years was cheating on me with a girl from work. He’s a new manger and runs a dollar tree in our small town. This girl just started and she’s very pretty. She is a few years older than we are. This isn’t the first time but after our we had our son and spent months in the NICU he seemed to have grown up and things were different. We just bought a house together and have recently (2ish weeks) have been talking about marriage when I found messages in his phone by accident to this girl. I JUST found out I’m pregnant again and was excited to tell him. When I confronted him about it he said he wasn’t happy and he didn’t know what he wanted or if he loves me. A total switch up because we have been fine and seemed/felt very much in love.Then he said he wanted to make it work with me but wasn’t ready for another baby. He blocked her Snapchat and we haven’t really talked much since. I’m not really sure how to go about this? I checked his phone again last night and saw they had messages under a different name and he said something to her that was deleted and she told him I couldn’t make him stay with me unless we’re married and to pack up and leave me and the kids. So she clearly knows about us. He’s telling me he wants to work on this with us and we can move past this, “it was a little slip up” & he loves me. But he is telling her something different? I’m a stay at home mom and don’t have a lot on my own so it’s more difficult to just pack up and leave. I also love him SO much and I’m so heartbroken but if he doesn’t want me I don’t want to stay..