For context, we’ve been together almost four years, married for three (we’ve known each other a very long time). Our intimate life has been up and down the entire time (he’s 30 I’m 32F). We have an almost 1 year old, and I have kids from previous relationship. Both work full time, busy lives.
I’m a very physical touch person. He’s fine with the basics. He’s fine with sex once a month, or every couple a weeks. I’d prefer daily. He doesn’t want me using toys to “replace” him, but gets frustrated when I bring up being more touchy feely.
We started seeing a counselor a couple months ago now. It’s been going good. This past Saturday he tells the counselor that he feels like it’s a “job” to be intimate. And something inside me deflated.
This past week, he’s been putting effort into being more touchy feely and I just….dont care anymore. I don’t care about having sex anymore, I don’t care if he touches me. I’m both extremely deprived and yet feeling very eeck to my husband. Idk what to do. I’ve never wanted to “force” him to be intimate, but have communicated my thoughts/feelings. He says he just doesn’t feel the desire to. Does anyone have any suggestions?