It seems to be true that being too available makes you prone to ghosting
Every once in a while I’ll come across a post on social media from one of those pro masculinity pages that says something along the lines of “never make yourself too available as people will be put off by you yadda yadda”.
I never really take notice of all that and try to be my authentic self but I’ve noticed a pattern with a few of my friends from work where I’ll normally be the one to initiate a text first after we arrange to do something in work to do outside of work and they’ll sometimes take hours to respond.
The more I text them the longer they take to respond if not at all (no I don’t bombard them with texts if that’s what you’re thinking, I only ever message them again when I get a response)
Then when we’re back in work they’ll come up with excuses like they were hungover etc so couldn’t respond and of course I have to act nonchalant about it.
It really frustrates me too because a specific guy who I get on really well with does this a lot with me yet seems to get invited out quite a lot by other people via message, even this girl who left the work place a few months ago who I secretly liked and had the number of randomly messaged him out the blue to go out drinking despite him usually taking hours to respond my messages, which makes me think he only ever takes hours to respond to or ghosts only me for whatever reason.
Any advice on what I might be doing wrong or how to handle it?