35F Broke up with him M45, should I return the gifts?
I need some advice. Its 10 months in & I think I'm done. The relationship dynamic is so unbalanced. For one, he treats me like I'm his personal assistant. I mentioned it to him & he says we're supposed to be a team.He is emotionally unavailable when I'm upset. He expects me to be there for him no matter what Im doing or how I feel while he never reciprocates. For example yesterday he got upset that he missed a zoom meeting for his job & asked me why didn't I remind him. I knew nothing about the zoom meeting. I don't work there. I asked him if the person of contact sent him a link via email or text. He says he doesn't know. He hands me his phone to check. Its not my responsibility manage that but I look anyway. He still blames me for not finding the zoom link that was never sent. Its another link but he didn't bother to read the email. Thats just one example. There are many but this was leading to my breaking point.
I loaned him my house keys yesterday he did returned them and he stayed for dinner. As I was leaving for work this morning, I noticed my keys weren't in their usual spot. I looked & looked but couldn't find them so I called and asked if he accidentally put them in his bag when he left . He says to me "You woke me up for this". I was taken aback. Had it been him who lost his keys, he'd want me to drop everything and look while directly blame me for causing him to misplace them. I told him I'm using the spare but he has the spare key to the apartment entrance. I asked for the key & he got irritated, dimissed my feelings, dimissed how important it was to have my keys and not be late for work. When I called him out on the disrespect & he called me a moody Aquarius & asked for his belongings back. Fine with me. I've had enough of this unfair dynamic so I met him at his house to exchange the key & returned an expensive promise ring he brought me. I left without saying a word.
He texts me the rest of the morning saying I need to be responsible, that's not his responsibility to help me find my keys. What!! When I responded telling him how I feel & why I'm not dealing with this behavior, he said its a waste of time texting him. So I said bye & told him he'll be blocked so he won't be seeing anymore texts from me. He bombarded my phone with texts telling me I'm not fighting for the relationship, accusing me of cheating because I'm not answering & blaming me for causing his ulcers to act up & possibly missing work today.
He wants me to return a TV he brought as a gift (for his benefit when he visits. I didn't need a new TV nor did I ask for one) & a men's jacket he also brought as a gift. Those are the most expensive things he brought other than the promise ring.He doesn't want a new guy to watch the TV he brought & I think he's jealous of the compliments I get when I wear the jacket which is why he wants it. It's his size too. I feel he got the promise ring so that's enough. He either wants the tv & the jacket back or wants me to pay him for it. If I knew this relationship was transactional I never would have taken the gifts from him. I don't want to see him. Should I return them anyway? Oh & he's blocked as of now so.