Long Distance, and sudden change in texting
So i meet this girl in December when i was on vacation went out 3 times, once a weekend. On the last day we went out i told her i would come back to see her again i just had a lot of fun with her and had a good time and i wasnt sure exactly when but would shoot for April. I got back state side and while i got back in to the groove of things i didnt text or initiate conversation because i didnt know what to say at the time and didnt wanna come off to strong, for us just meeting a few times. Then i found a topic and it spiraled in to deep and fun conversations. I sent her flowers to her job, and she was amazed i did that being so fat away. Then i was finally able to get a date where my work and vacation days aligned . I let her know she was extatic, i even asked her to be my valentine and she said definitely yes. So we still chating every day send reels, we woild reply when we could and had time usually within 4 hrs. I understand we both have lives and have things to do. Well the time comes when i go to see her i bring a nice bouquet of flowers and make her a little sign asking to her to be my girlfriend but at the moment i felt like it was gever dream and i didnt say at first. She quickly sais are tou not going to ask. I did ask, she said yes. We had some much fun out of the 10 days i was down there i was able to see her for 8 days i would have been just happy with 5. Talked about alot of stuff and our past relationships. She was out of an 8 year relationship, that was toxic her ex was jealous and didnt like her going out with out her and if she wanted to go to the club he would wait outside. She said it felt like she was married. I understood wherebshe was coming fornt and told her my past and she didnt judge. Well i come back still chatting sending reels. Teasing each other, and having a good time.
Then about little over a week now she went mia for a whole day that was super unusual of her. We'd send each other good morning text, not good night because I work night shifts and she didnt understand my schedule. But we would pick up the conversation from the night before a couple of time we'd rest and start over with new topics and leave the old convs for history. Well i was worried because that hadnt happened. Thursday i sent a new GM text. I understand life gets in the way of stuff. Then Thursday around 1 she explained what happened. She got a new job and was training the day before. She has a small corner store as well, and told me her helper/ employee stopped showing up so she had her store closed during the day. Also she forgot to pay her coner store rent by like 4 days, when i owner shows up saying that she gonna have to move out and shes irresponsible and how she had to start looking for a new place.
I understood and said it would be okay, and i would be as supportive as i could. But i had already planned a flower dilvery for Thursday as a surprise so i canclled it and made arrangements for Sunday at her conner store hoping she would straight things out. And i understood why she stopped texting Thursday new job, bad service at her new job and then issues with her conner store. I thought super stressful and she needed some space to figure things out. On Friday it was a holiday in her country and she was going to have a girls day with her mom and sister,i had met them before. So i said that was nice and hopefully it would help her unwind and be gokd for her mental health. So i left her alone the reat of the day. On Saturday sent GM. she reliped she went to stock up and sent a pic of her inventory. I replied something, she didnt get back till much later apologized she slept all afternoon. I understand i worked that weekend so i didn't notice much. And i was happy because if she stocked up meant the flowers would arrive to her store. I saw her moms whatsapp that she went out with her daughters and at the club. I noticed and stopped texting to let her enjoy the night. And the conversation either way ended soninwas fine. Sunday i was excited she was going to receive my flowers not because i need validation but as a lovely gesture and she loves flowers. I sent the GM. I woke to go to work, she hadnt replied saw she was online earlier. Before i headed out she sent me a pic of the flowers and the note i sent and she was happy said said how much it ment to her. I replied saying i loved her back too and was lovey dovey. She didnt answer anymore. Saw her sis ig they went out again i understand she was just having fun maybe next morning.
Monday sent GM hopefully she would react or acknowledge my last message. She did reply Gm and said it was her first official day. Dont no acknowledge of the day before. Then nothing
Tuesday another GM and she did reply and had some small talk but she stopped.
Wednesday and Thursday same GM no continuation or acknowledge of the previous convo. I understand its new job new stress making sure she dosent mess up on her job and likes making sure she didnt make mistakes. Friday GM and say she finally made it thru the first week. No reply at all. So later that friday i ask how she is and how her new job and send a quick audio of a small recap of my week. Finally i get a reply says today she went in early and got out a little early and it was not that bad but she just feels so exhausted and tired the first week. Have a nice chat about what happened my week a little back.and forth but felt nice after a week of bland replies. This is mother day weekend i assume she might be busy. I sent GM she does too, says shes at the market and will reply to last audio. Just a little busy i understand, sends one reel an hour later. I reply to reel when i was done driving send her a funny one i had saved. Nothing. Today Sundays mother day GM wishing her mom a good mothers day ask what i got my mother tell her and ask what her plans are. Nothing as of now.
I understand we dont have to be chatting 24 7 and we live our own lives and dealing with stress. And i get that its her new job and she dosent want to make mistakes so early on. I just dont get how she could just keep me a little in the loop just a quick super busy. She told me about the ex. I dont want to that level and her conner store issues. I see she's online on whatapp, she post on her close friends on IG, i come across reels she repost 30min, 1hr, 2hrs ago. And i cant get a simple answer to a question i ask. We went form nice conversation to me being left for hrs or days with little signs of life. But im not insecure its just the complete change in communication. I will say somethig in like 2 weeks if i see we aren't communicating, she has very bad service i get it after work. Dosent jave to be like brforw just a little more effort.
Maybe im just overreacting a little, she could have choose someone else in the time frame when we werent official, and she could have not gone out those three weekends. She made time for me in April.