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I’m at a loss with my tank.

I’ve tried adding more plants, mixing up the rocks, adding more wood, but I’m not sure how to make this dang tank look appealing. I don’t use co2. I think it’s a 39 gallon tank? 😬 I forgot what it was tbh. Give me any and all suggestions.

I was thinking of adding sand to the left side under the wood to maybe try making it pop out in a way..

Also thought about what type of rocks I should have and decided to add lava rocks river rocks and some crystals but I think that’s just too much of a variety.

I’ve got a bunch of blue shrimp

2 amano shrimp

7 neon tetras

One sunset gourami

3 albino corydoras

Bunch of pest snails

u/Blond-one — 6 days ago
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I’ve read lots of post on here and I realize my partner thinks I should be doing all the house chores, cook foods every day, and take care of bb. He started a business right when bb was born, and has been learning that.

I think he wanted a traditional wife type partner, I do not want anything traditional what so ever. I feel so much resentment and he resents me because my pregnancy and postpartum my libido went away.

We’ve tried couples counseling a few times but he walked out last week and we haven’t made another appointment since.

If I were to move out I’d probably have to move back in with my narcissistic mother and sarcastic avoidant father. I’m the soul provider for my bb, and doing laundry and cooking cleaning, haven’t done a few things for a couple months though.

I didn’t ever want to become a mother or wife because I didn’t want to become a traditional wife or to carryover the toxic tendencies the ladies in my family have.

Idk what to do. My bb is 6 months and a week old. I think I am over my partner though and we both feel trapped and are not healthy together sometimes.

I’ve been going to therapy and it’s been helping me but him? He has yet to go to personal therapy and is no better than me in an argument. I’m just tired and burnt out. And really feeling like I messed up so badly having a child. I thought I’d be in one of those super great relationships but, it’s been terrible.

I’m not sure what I’m asking for or saying but… I resent my partner, we’re not even married, and I don’t want my daughter growing up with my narcissistic alcoholic mother. I don’t want to either. But that’s the only place I could go if we don’t stick together. I’m so sad and I feel like I’ll never find the right person for me. And idk how to leave now. we also just resigned the lease and I finally have a yard I can put my plants in, but living with my boyfriend has been terrible most days.

Women who have an actual man as a partner, cherish them and be so kind to them.

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u/Blond-one — 7 days ago