I want to preface my question with a couple personal points:
I'm not worried, only curious.
I'm a first time parent.
Various neuro-divergences runs heavily in both sides of our family. I know some can delay displays of, or desire for affection.
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On to my question: What is the developmentally average point when affection appears in babies? Or is it toddlers? As an example when do they want to initiate hugs or cuddles? When do they want to be with us for reasons other than feeling safe or bored? When do they get more excited to see their parents/care givers compared to other "safe people"?
I'm asking because my 10 month old is a happy baby but never cared for hugs, kisses, cuddles, contact napping, etc. He does not initially get upset, just immediately pushes away. He becomes upset if we don't immediately release him, unless distracted.
He also does not show any preference or excitement for mom or dad over other people. Very calm and neutral around strangers. No touch or gaze aversion (he laughs along with us and dances when we sing).
I assume this is all fine for now (no development warning signs yet) and I'm not upset, just curious if/when he will start to show like or even love towards me and his dad?