AITA for being suggesting a different lawn service provider
For context, I have been staying with my partner while I get my home remodeled. I really appreciate her willingness to do that so I’ve made an attempt to make sure and upgrade her home in every way I know how (that she consents to) Buying groceries, Taking out trash, hanging up artworks, installing bidets etc. everything possible to try and leave the place better than when I arrived. It’s gone great for majority of the time.
About a month ago a random dude approached her while she was walking her dog on the street. He asked if she wanted her lawn cut. She comes home and informs me he will be coming around. I feel it’s bad instincts or the hottest guy I’ve ever seen is about to pull up. but I don’t say anything out of civility & wanting to trust her discernment.
He arrives and immediately my antennas go up. Older guy. Late 40s early 50s seems a little down on his luck and between blessings. We’ve all been there in some respect so I try to fight the judgement. But there’s no truck no business. Just a random guy. He cuts the lawn for a few 10s. Does a horrible job. Knocked down signs in the yard etc. but she was happy with it.
Keep in mind this is her money and her home. Next day rolls around she’s not home. He knocks on the door. He said he’s here to wash our cars. Unbeknownst to me ofc. I call her and confirm. In this interaction we both have a bit of a stand offish energy. I decline to have mine washed and she continues with her transaction.
I am uncomfortable with it but I bite my tongue.
Fast forward a few weeks and he comes by again unannounced. He ofc asks to cut her lawn. We’d just got off work, she wasn’t home yet. So I let him know to try to come by tomorrow so that she can have the convo with him. He ofc insist he’d like to cut it today. Mildly frustrated and goes on about his day.
I text her and let her know. She hadn’t sent for him at all. He just showed up. Now through text i think my displeasure was obvious and she called it out. I explained that my discomfort was not necessarily with her but the situation.
A random man, who was clearly desperate, approached her off the street. Asking to do a service he had no business for as well as no anchor for accountability. He now knows where she lives and the second she doesn’t need his services anymore, she suddenly has a potentially hungry angry wolf at her doorstep.
My frustration lands on the idea that it feels like she was taken advantage of as a mark. And a lack of discernment landed her in a potentially dangerous situation as a woman that primarily lives alone. Bonus frustration being: The simple fact that if she had asked me to do these tasks I would have happily done them. I’ve cleaned our cars plenty of times. I’ve cut the grass as well.
I absolutely see the angle here that I’m being paranoid, pretentious and overly judgmental. This is why I am here today. I appreciate you taking the time to read it. Lmk AITA.