So me (24M) and my girlfriend (24F) have had a difficult 2026.
It started around New Year’s Eve when we disagreed on another argument that happened. She could see where her friend was coming from and I could see where the guy was coming from.
We have been dating for almost 6 years now, and this was the first proper argument we actually had. We’re also technically long distance as it’s about 100 miles between us or a 2 hour drive.
Since that day it seemed like intimacy was a thing of the past or a chore for her, whenever I’d go up and see her which would only be a 2 night stay she would always try and invite other people into our plans, it almost feels like she doesn’t want to be alone with me.
And because she works lates she would start staying late at working drinking with co workers almost every night. Whilst also talking about how much she gets on with one of the male co workers. Which sent alarm bells ringing.
I take some of the blame as she wasn’t doing anything wrong, this just seemed out of character which made me go cold and distant. She was upset in the relationship, I was the as well. I sometimes made her feel trapped although from my point of view I was concerned and wanted the old her back, not this new version.
Early March, we manage to sort it but the problem still lingers, intimacy is completely dead (and we don’t live together) and we argue every other conversation. But now she’s started seeing her old best friend a lot more.
She’s likes to spend her time going on holiday, and sleeping with a load of random guys (you do you).
But now she’s enticed my girlfriend to go on one of these “girlie holidays” in Turkey for 5 days. Talking through the itinerary it’s just drinking in clubs and bars the whole time, something the old her wouldn’t be up for. I originally didn’t have a problem with it. Until she got defensive when I said “I don’t care what you do just respect our boundaries” which sent alarm bells.
This was supposed to be a relaxing holiday full of sun, beaches and drinking but now her single friend has invited others who are also single, telling my girlfriend she must “look her best” while she’s out there.
When I plan for us to go away somewhere just the 2 of us she gives the excuse of “we need to save money” but for her single friends she’s up for everything.
Claiming there’s nothing wrong in the relationship she plans of doing it again next years but for 10 days instead of 5.
Some days I think I’m overreacting and other days I’m thinking I have every right to think the way I do.
I don’t know whether to end things or not because the version of her before New Year’s Eve was wifey material but now, at 24 do I really wanna waste my time on someone who keeps moving the goalposts on our relationship and only puts effort in when she’s doing single activities.