Hey guys, my name is Destiny, I don't usually post on Reddit nor do I check it out often, but I think today is the time to make an exception. Because what I'm about to share I need to vent about and I may not only need advice on but I think it's time the world knew something. So let's get to the point...
Yesterday at 4:00 pm, on May 4th, my mom screamed at me, verbally harassing me because I accidentally put a $30 salmon in the freezer instead of the fridge the day before because we were going to eat it for dinner. There was a lot going on the day we got the fish however since we were all busy putting away other groceries and I mistakenly put it away in the wrong place, I tried to put it in the fridge yesterday morning to defrost but Google estimated it takes 24 hours or overnight to completely defrosted and an hour or two in cold water for quicker time. So I was going to try doing that and when my mom found out what I accidentally did, she could've handled it in a different way but no, she decided to go berserk and screamed at me like I ruined an entire and expensive collection she was hoarding. I tried to explain to her it was a mistake and that you could defrost it quickly in cold water, but she refused to listen and stated it wasn't going to taste right if I did that (BTW, I did use the cold water method shortly after and it tasted just fine!)
And then after getting into an argument, after my mom attempted to throw it out saying I 'ruined' dinner and that I ruin everything, she screamed more at me saying I'm extremely retarded, incompetent and brain dead. The argument went on and she still refused to listen, my dad tried to talk to her about it but she still refused to admit she was wrong. He didn't want to deal with it, which wasn't helpful but at the same time it was understandable since at this point he asks 'Why even bother talking to her?' At this point for me... I don't know.
Yes, what I did was admittedly dumb and accidental, I could've done better to listen and do things correctly, even though it wasn't really a waste, but does that give her the right to verbally harass me like that?
My boyfriend did advice me that what she did could technically get her put in jail because she in a way abused and harassed me, and even if that's true I'm not going to call the police on her for that. I know what she did was not okay, and it's not the first time she's done this or anything more serious (I'll get to that momentarily), and that she can't be allowed to get away with it, but being a little paranoid, but even if I could call the police on her for this, it can only go so many ways and one of those ways being it either backfires and wastes their time or she does get put in jail and after either outcome I give her more of a reason then to verbally assault me or even worse, kick me out unfairly.
Like I said before too, it's not the first time she did something like this. Growing up, on occasion, she would get so pissed at me or my siblings for simple mistakes that she would resort or stoop to throwing insults and using verbally abusive phrases that are in my opinion completely uncalled for. She can act like that never happened all she wants too but I can sort of or fully remember her doing this.
One time when I was a toddler, she threw a plastic tote container at me and caused a bloody nose. Another instance I remember was she stomped on my foot just to get me to listen to her. Some of these I can't remember when exactly she did these but I remember them well.
Once she even shoved my sister into a doorknob, hitting her back, because my sister was trying to defend herself when my mom was mocking her for no reason. My brother had to step in and tell her it was uncalled for. Plenty of times recently, my mom had been treating her and her boyfriend unfairly, calling my sister a sl*t and a w**re, even one time spread false rumors about my sister being racist over a simple misunderstanding at her work place.
Why we haven't called the police on her for that I'm not entirely sure, except that we may end up making it worse. Even if we won't, jail time isn't going to do anything because she refuses to admit she's wrong or what she did was wrong. Why bother making this post then? Well, like I said I need to vent, seek advice and the world needs to know exactly what kind of person she can be sometimes.
I really don't understand what her problem is. For the last few years and recently we lost three of our dogs, my aunt on my dad's side, my grandmother and grandfather (her parents) and she's been in a long going legal fight with her brother because he got greedy and tried to possess my grandparent's house for himself. I'm not getting into that because I don't have the full story, but I imagine these are part of the reasons she's been acting like this. A lot of other incidents prior probably haven't helped, but it still gives her no right to verbally harass or abuse her own family like this. She's becoming almost as bad as her brother at this point.
I don't 100% know for sure if posting this is a good idea, but I frankly don't care anymore either. I'm not being petty, I'm being honest and I still think the world needs to know what kind of person she is. Typical Reddit user stuff I know, but she needs to be stung where it really hurts at one point.
If you guys have any advice then let me know, I doubt this will grab anyone's attention anyway but it would be helpful. I'll update soon if any other incidents occur.