Unbearably annoying roommate
Names have been changed for privacy.
I genuinely think I have the most annoying roommate and I’m counting down the days until the end of my lease.
For context, this girl (“Tara”) NEVER takes accountability for anything. Ever. Everything is always someone else’s fault and she constantly tries to pit roommates against each other through manipulation.
Earlier this year she ate TWO boxes of my mac and cheese, which I don’t care about, she could’ve asked and I would’ve been like, yeah that’s fine just replace it when you can, then when I confronted her about it weeks later she instantly blamed our old roommate (“Ethan”) without hesitation. She does this constantly.
There was also another situation with a different male roommate (“Luke”) where she drank his juice boxes and tried blaming me for it. Then later she suddenly started claiming HER food was going missing. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if she believes her own lies or just likes creating endless drama. I’m the most drama free person out there and don’t have the patience for this shit.
What’s wild is that when I first moved in, she constantly talked badly about Ethan and manipulated situations to make him look unreasonable. Later, when him and I became closer while sorting bills after he moved out, he told me she treated him horribly too just like what’s she’s doing to me now. Apparently she did the same thing to another old roommate before me as well. There’s always a “problem roommate” with her, and somehow she always recruits one person in the house to gang up on another.
She also expects me to pay MORE rent than she used to pay for the exact same sized room as hers because I supposedly get “more privacy.” Meanwhile my room is next to the kitchen and she’ll loudly stomp around cooking at 10-11pm, slam the back door late at night, and leave the front door wide open sometimes, when asked not to do these things she’ll always make up excuses. So much privacy and peace, right?
The biggest issue though is my cat.
My cat is an extremely anxious indoor cat who has never been comfortable around strangers when I’m not there. One time Tara left BOTH her bedroom door and window open while my cat was roaming the house, despite fully knowing she was roaming the house. Next thing I know my cat is outside near a busy road meow-crying.
Then another time she had friends over while I was gone. Earlier that day she was weirdly asking what time I’d be home, which she NEVER normally does. Later that night when I unexpectedly came home, she casually goes: “Oh btw your cat got out.”
You’re telling me my indoor anxious cat “got out” and you didn’t message me until I walked through the door? Absolutely not. Then weeks later she randomly brought it up again saying things like “your cat didn’t seem anxious” and “it’s not like I was parading her around for my cat-lover friend.”
That sentence alone told me everything I needed to know.
At this point I’m seriously considering putting a camera in my room because I don’t trust her around my cat at all.
She also has this habit of acting like her problems are more important than everyone else’s. One day she unplugged the internet because she needed to charge something for her car battery. I told her I had a university assignment due at 5pm, my phone was broken so I couldn’t hotspot, and I desperately needed internet access. She still left the internet disconnected for HOURS because apparently her charging device mattered more than my assignment deadline.
And now she expects me to “chip in” for damage to kitchen paint caused by a whiteboard SHE blu-tacked to the wall before I even moved in. The thing literally fell off the wall naturally and somehow that’s now a shared expense?
I honestly think she just thrives on conflict and negativity. Every single thing is a complaint, an accusation, or drama. I keep to myself as much as possible because interacting with her is exhausting.
The craziest part is that every roommate she’s ever had has apparently had issues with her at some point. That can’t be a coincidence.
I’m stuck here until the end of the year and honestly just trying to survive it at this point.
Anyone else ever dealt with a roommate who acts like a manipulative high school bully in an adult form? How did you make living with them bearable?