21F feeling torn between “doing everything right” and actually living
I’m 21F and about to start my last year of college (graduating August 2027) for wildlife biology. This has been my dream for as long as I can remember, and I genuinely love it. I get to do some really cool things because of this path, and I feel fulfilled in a lot of ways.
That said, right now my life is basically just grinding—school, work, responsibilities. I’m someone who loves life. I notice little things, I’m super curious, and I like spontaneity when I can have it. I can be impulsive, but I’m also disciplined and hardworking when I need to be. I’m the kind of person who wakes up at 5am to workout before school and work.
Lately though, I’ve had this strong urge to just… drop everything and go live. Travel, disappear for a bit, do something unplanned with no destination. But everything is so expensive, and realistically I can’t just skip class or miss work because I need the money and I really care about my future.
I’m also getting married next year (which I’m so excited about), and we have big goals—saving for a house, building a life together and we are working hard to getting close to paying off most debt, and I am starting my career in a competitive field. And I know I want to be a mom someday (hopefully before 30) more than anything.
But at the same time, I feel like I’m running out of time to just live. I know I’m young, but it feels like life is already getting locked into this structure where spontaneity doesn’t really fit. I don’t want to wake up in my 30s and feel like I never did anything bold or out of the ordinary.
Sometimes it honestly gets me down, and I’m wondering if anyone else has felt this way or has advice. I also know being in school full-time and working at the same time doesn’t help—it doesn’t leave much room to just go explore. I’m hoping someday I’ll have more flexibility with weekends/PTO, but right now it feels really limited.
Has anyone figured out how to balance being responsible and actually living a fulfilling and spontaneous life? kinda feeling like Chris McCandless if you know who I’m talking about