Hi im not sure how to start this but my (mtf 23) main issue is that my mum and dad aswell as my grandparents cant see me as anything other than a guy. When I came out to my parents they seemed to be fine and stopped using my dead name and used the correct pronouns for about 2 weeks. After that they just stopped, stating that ill "always be their little man". They refuse to stop even when I got my name legally changed and brought up to them how much I hate it and how much it hurts when they dead name me. My grandparents have been a bit better and do call me by my legal name but are hesitant to do so. I had dinner with them tonight and received a text message saying how lovely it was for me to take them out for dinner but "unfortunately we cant see you as anything other than our little man". It really hurts but I have also just found out that my grandparents have been upset at my parents for the way I dress (I literally just wore a black dress and tights, boots and my cute ass goat head earrings) and how I "act", basically shit talking me to my parents as my parents shit talk me to them. My mother let this slip on a phone call tonight but quickly changed the topic to start talking with my gf while I nearly cried driving home. My biggest question is should I cut them off or keep them in my life. They are the only family I talk to. I just don't know what to do or how to make them see me as a woman
Background info
I live by myself and work full time so my family doesn't have much say in what I do, at all, but their opinions still affect me more than I'd like.
My parents live in Thailand while my grandparents and I live in Australia
I have been transitioning and wearing make up and dressing feminine since November 2025
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