As i am entering my late 20s and continue to remain chronically single, I can’t imagine ever wanting to birth any children, let alone parent any.
I do hope to find my person and get married, but I absolutely do not want to birth any children at 35 or older. I know, it seems like I still have a lot of time. But if I were to meet someone in the next year, I need to date him for at least a year, be engaged for another year, and have a few years of just the two of us to travel and be a young married couple. Then poof I’m 35. It would be years until I would feel ready to have a child.
Quite frankly, I don’t believe that having a child is worth it to me. I’ve suffered with hormonal imbalances since I was a teenager and PMDD. I’ve always had a fear I would have a miserable pregnancy because of this. To me, the aches, pain, nausea, and mental challenges aren’t worth it to me. Even if it’s only 9 months of my life. PPD is also a thing and I already would have an increased risk of developing it.
I know this might sound harsh, but I don’t think there is a man out there who deserves a child as a result of my suffering. I’m quite invested in my career and don’t ever want to go part time to raise a child. If I were to have a child, I could never imagine working full time in their early years.
When I imagine my future with a husband, I honestly don’t see a child in it. I don’t feel that I have a motherly calling. Would I be a good mother? Yah, probably. My mom always told me I had a maternal instinct. Are babies cute? Yes of course, I see a baby and smile and love being around my friends’ babies. But I don’t have the desire to have my own.
I’m just afraid that a man will expect me to have a child and he will be disappointed if don’t want any. I do see myself being married. It’s something I’ve always wanted. But starting a family is not.