u/Big_Lengthiness7580

I (21M) talked to my gf (22F) about wanting to go to China this past week and it’s the first time I’ve ever brought this up to her. It’s kind of a last minute thing. I have 2 months paid leave from work and I want to take advantage of this time I have and would like to go out of the country. (Side note) We had broken up a few weeks ago and we decided to get back together. She said she would want to go and we’ve been planning the trip. We came up on the hypothetical chance she wouldn’t be able to go because of work and she said that I shouldn’t go either. I told her even in my situation that I have 2 months off, she said she wouldn’t be comfortable with me going and that basically she would breakup with me. I told her that I have a rare opportunity to do this and she told me that is her boundary. I just feel like it’s a little selfish that she thinks that way. We have a cruise to the Caribbean in July so it’s not like I’m not neglecting plans with her. I just have an opportunity to go travel outside of the country which I’ve been wanting to do for a long time. Last year she was planning a trip with her girl friends to Puerto Rico which I wasn’t invited and I had no problem with that she didn’t ask for permission from me, which I don’t think she should have to and it wasn’t a problem. It just doesn’t sit right with me even though we are going that I wouldn’t be able to go by myself without this ultimatum. This isn’t a destination she’s been wanting to go to we already going there on the cruise. I just happened to want to go to China and it bothers me that I couldn’t travel outside of the country without her, without having to breakup.