u/Big_Interview3851

Me (M/56) and my wife (F/56) have been arguing with each other ever since I went on this business trip last week to the Kentucky Derby.
For some background knowledge, things have already been a bit tense between us. Our house has been going under renovations at the moment, but to save money I called some friends in who owed me favors. They can only work weekends, so the house has been a little unlivable the past two months with no kitchen or laundry room to work with. My wife is frustrated that the process has taken this long now that laundry and cooking isn't available anymore, and this has risen tensions in the house between us. I understand the house isn't in the best living conditions at the moment and that I should've maybe hired people to take care of this process faster, but I don't need constant reminders that I messed up. My wife had a temper, and I don't need to be dealing with that after a long work day. If she's moody, I go back to the office to work on more desk work.
Back to present day, a business friend invited me to go to the Kentucky Derby and when I texted my wife to let her know, she got upset. The two of us had planned to go someday as a part of our bucket list, so she really wanted that experience to be a trip for us. I agreed with her, and told her I wouldn't go on the trip. After thinking about it some more, I really wanted to maintain this business relationship we have since this friend helps me make the most money for our family. The day before I had to leave, I asked my wife if she could take me to the airport in the morning for the trip. Expectantly, she was furious since last I texted her I said I wasn't going. I drove myself to the airport the next morning for the trip. Now that I'm back, my wife is still mad at me for going. I've tried to explain that this is how business works, but she doesn't seem to want to understand. My kids think that I'm in the wrong, but I don't think I did anything wrong. AITA?