So there’s this girl I liked a lot since college.
We were classmates, but we were never very close. During college, she already had a boyfriend, so I never really tried anything. We barely talked except normal class-related stuff.
In 3rd year, she broke up with her boyfriend. Later during final year, I slowly started talking to her more—mostly using notes/studies as an excuse because I liked her and wanted to get closer.
After graduation, we both joined the same classes for career preparation. That’s when we became much closer. She started trusting me a lot, we talked frequently (not daily, but often for long hours), and I even invited her to my birthday.
Later, she got a job in Pune, and surprisingly I also got a job there. We lived pretty far apart (around 24 km distance), but despite that we used to meet on weekends and explore the city.
I would often drop her back to her PG late at night because she said she felt safer with me. We celebrated her birthday too, I gave her gifts, and we kept talking regularly by sharing reels and chatting.
One time she called me to visit Dagdusheth Ganpati temple with her, and we spent almost the whole night exploring temples. I dropped her back around 2:30 AM.
She also loves anime, and I honestly hate anime. One day she really wanted someone to watch an anime movie with her. Her other friends refused, I initially refused too, but she kept insisting so I went with her anyway and dropped her home late at night again.
Even my close friends knew I liked her and they were trying to help me indirectly by hyping me up in front of her.
Eventually I gathered courage and confessed my feelings to her on a call.
Her reaction completely shocked me.
She started crying and said she always saw me as her best friend and nothing more. The next day she called one of my friends and said she was angry at my two friends for trying to set things up.
She also said I was never her type and that she was not interested in me romantically.
What hurt me even more was that she told my friend things like:
“I never asked him to drop me home.” “He took too many efforts on his own.”
And later she messaged me saying she only saw me as a friend.
But here’s the part that really messed with my head:
Before I confessed, she had even asked me to travel with her on a sleeper bus back to our hometown.
And after everything happened, she told my friend that she felt uncomfortable while traveling with me—even though I never did anything inappropriate and always respected boundaries.
That statement really hurt because it made me feel like I was being painted in a negative way when I genuinely cared for her and always tried to make sure she felt safe.
Now I feel extremely hurt, confused, and mentally drained.
I genuinely don’t know whether I completely misunderstood things, whether I was just her emotional support person, or if I’m overthinking this.
Should I completely block her and move on?
Would really appreciate honest advice.