I know the egg yolk touching the pickle is a little wild I didn't leave the eggs boiling for long enough 😭
I've been seeing my bf for a year now and he's honestly amazing for me. Before we met neither of us were in a serious relationship for several years and aside from being really compatible it feels like we met at a good time in our lives. Of course we've had our disagreements and our backgrounds and upbringings were VERY different but we always manage to see eye to eye or respect whatever differences we have.
My birthday is coming up next month and we're going to travel together to my home country for him to meet my family for the first time. We're both excited for him to see my home town but I'm feeling pretty anxious about him meeting and spending time with my family, particularly my mother.
Her and I have had a complicated relationship over the years. It's at its healthiest when we have a little space from one another, because when I was growing up we were deeply enmeshed with one another with almost nonexistent boundaries. On one hand my mother can be a very warm, generous, and thoughtful person, but she's also quite mean and careless with her words. When our relationship was at its worst I had a 'secret' boyfriend I refused to introduce her to for well over a year (while we were still living together but I was already an adult) because I was absolutely terrified of what kinds of insults she might throw at him for the sake of being 'funny' and 'sarcastic'. This was after spending my teenage years listening to her ridiculing and admonishing both her and my friends for the slightest and most shallow indiscretions, or simply for their looks or interests. She loves being the centre of attention and when we are with my brothers she's quick to divert conversation away from me, as if she's scared of me stealing the limelight.
I've already given my boyfriend hints on some of this behaviour and am planning on a proper sit down conversation where I can better explain my fears to him better before we travel home. I have no doubts that he will be well able to handle this and that he will even do it graciously, even if he finds it weird or uncomfortable. It's really more my own reactions and the possibility of me getting triggered by her that I'm worried about. I know I can sometimes be overprotective of people even when they don't need it, but I also know how she can get under my skin. Contemplating creating a secret code or series of gestures we can use to get out of or divert conversations 😭 it's going to be fine in the end but my birthday especially can be a bit of a red zone for these behaviours. Hopefully we'll still manage a cute trip lol!!
2 runny boiled eggs, some tomatoes with pesto Genovese, tinned spicy mussels and some cornichons. Also had a caramel choc protein bar for dessert