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I just finished reading "the thousand splendid suns" Not gonna lie, I was tear struck When aziza was sent to the orphanage. I also realized how ignorant I was to the situation in Afghanistan. Thinking back, mariam never experienced love, she only got to experience it when laila started talking to her. All this started because she gifted aziza the clothes she stitched. One thirst at midnight, one small interaction with aziza was the reason she got to experience love in her life.

It hurts to think how oppressed she was that she didn't even consider leaving with laila, she wanted to sacrifice herself, she didn't even consider the possibility of leading a normal peaceful life because she never got to experience that.

What if she allowed jalil into her house in 1982? What if she longed for his love? what is she read his letter? Mariam sabotaged herself by isolating herself, wouldn't blame her, but I wish that was not normalized for her. What if mariam spoke to fariba and other women whenever she went to tandoor? She would know how world works, if she had a better social life in her childhood, she would've been naturally inclined to socialize and maybe she would've lead a better life. Again, result of living in an isolated house in the outskirts of herat.

Mariam killed rasheed because she wanted to protect laila, what if she did it before? To protect herself? If she did it before the war, she could've left kabul, worked somewhere else and earned a living. But she didn't. she never valued herself enough to protect herself. She always looked at herself as a harami, non-deserving, her mom's upbringing.

I just finished reading "the thousand splendid suns" Not gonna lie, I was tear struck When aziza was sent to the orphanage. I also realized how ignorant I was to the situation in Afghanistan. Thinking back, mariam never experienced love, she only got to experience it when laila started talking to her. All this started because she gifted aziza the clothes she stitched. One thirst at midnight, one small interaction with aziza was the reason she got to experience love in her life.

It hurts to think how oppressed she was that she didn't even consider leaving with laila, she wanted to sacrifice herself, she didn't even consider the possibility of leading a normal peaceful life because she never got to experience that.

What if she allowed jalil into her house in 1982? What if she longed for his love? what is she read his letter? Mariam sabotaged herself by isolating herself, wouldn't blame her, but I wish that was not normalized for her. What if mariam spoke to fariba and other women whenever she went to tandoor? She would know how world works, if she had a better social life in her childhood, she would've been naturally inclined to socialize and maybe she would've lead a better life. Again, result of living in an isolated house in the outskirts of herat.

Mariam killed rasheed because she wanted to protect laila, what if she did it before? To protect herself? If she did it before the war, she could've left kabul, worked somewhere else and earned a living. But she didn't. she never valued herself enough to protect herself. She always looked at herself as a harami, non-deserving., her mom's upbringing.

I just finished reading "the thousand splendid suns" Not gonna lie, I was tear struck When aziza was sent to the orphanage. I also realized how ignorant I was to the situation in Afghanistan. Thinking back, mariam never experienced love, she only got to experience it when laila started talking to her. All this started because she gifted aziza the clothes she stitched. One thirst at midnight, one small interaction with aziza was the reason she got to experience love in her life.

It hurts to think how oppressed she was that she didn't even consider leaving with laila, she wanted to sacrifice herself, she didn't even consider the possibility of leading a normal peaceful life because she never got to experience that.

What if she allowed jalil into her house in 1982? What if she longed for his love? what is she read his letter? Mariam sabotaged herself by isolating herself, wouldn't blame her, but I wish that was not normalized for her. What if mariam spoke to fariba and other women whenever she went to tandoor? She would know how world works, if she had a better social life in her childhood, she would've been naturally inclined to socialize and maybe she would've lead a better life. Again, result of living in an isolated house in the outskirts of herat.

Mariam killed rasheed because she wanted to protect laila, what if she did it before? To protect herself? If she did it before the war, she could've left kabul, worked somewhere else and earned a living. But she didn't. she never valued herself enough to protect herself. She always looked at herself as a harami, non-deserving., her mom's upbringing.

My school friend is socially anxious.

She barely comes out of her hostel, she's scared of Delhi's reputation but I think she's gaslighting herself. She doesn't even go for a walk outside the campus idk why, the only time she goes out is with her boyfriend.

A recent situation:

We both went to a café, after eating our food, I wanted pics of myself, I told her to click some but she legit started rapping that she doesn't feel good, "we ate the food so we should just head out", but I think it's ok to sit in a cafe or a restaurant for 5 mins after your done with your meal. When the waiter came close to the table she said "omg now the waiter is gonna say to go out in front of everyone, Lets go, let's go" I wanted dessert 😭😭 I couldn't get it.

Once we went out like 4 kms away from her hostel, around 5 she said that she was scared to walk back to the hostel, the sun didn't set yet. I had to walk her back to her hostel, I didn't mind. She kept saying "omg you're so brave".

Am I overthinking or is she actually socially anxious??

We are good friends, I take her advice sometimes, about life and all.

Should I tell her that she needs to do something about this or am I being too nosey?

How do I tell her?!? 😭