I recently came across this term on TikTok and have been thinking how I often choose empower others but hardly ever myself. Especially men in my life who happen to be my partners. Seeing this term hit me hard as it described something I had never really thought about.
After spending most of my life in mostly longer term relationships, im now single and trying to figure out how to motivate myself to do stuff, but I'm finding it incredibly difficult without someone who would be witnessing my efforts (both for myself and my partner).
Obviously im aware there is loads to unpack here ( fawning, trauma, social inequality, ableism) and fhis is just a small part in the ocean of my ADHD unpacking but for some reason this realisation is particularly painful.