I've recently been through a LOT, including break ups, psychiatric hospitalization and just a lot of chaos. I'm more stable now, I'm taking my meds correctly, and doing better in general, but that's pretty recent.
I wanted to go out with people casually, no strings attached, just for fun. However, I went on a few dates with this amazing guy who's funny, kind, and awesome. We got along pretty well, and before I knew we were being all lovey-dovey (for the lack of a better term). He's amazing, but I can feel the romantic feelings creeping in, the desire to spend all this time with him and it seems very mutual.
Of course it's fun, but I know how much it can consume me. It was part of the problems I had that lead to the chaos.
I wanted to hear from my fellow BPDs how you handle all this intensity so these relationships don't become the most important thing. I don't want to get to a FP dynamic. Any tips?