How many times are they usually supposed to hit you
I’m 17F grew up in DV, I accepted or am trying to accept a lot of what my mom did but I started thinking about what my dad did too. Tbh I’m not sure how I feel about him anymore. He seems way more chill than my mom but there were a few instances that were dangerous. Like I remember this one instance when I was around 8 or 9 years old he was watching a movie and was stressed from work or something. I was in front of him yapping to him about something and then I guess he got annoyed and slapped me really hard my entire arm was red for all of the next day. I didn’t even know slaps could do that. And then this other instance happened a year later I was starting to develop “attitude” which is normal for a 9 year old girl. I was really pissed at him over something I can’t remember what he suddenly forced me on the ground and started screaming at me. I don’t think he was going to do anything and he was just trying to intimidate me. Somehow I got out and ran away from him and locked myself in my room crying as he came to say he’s sorry. I hugged him like an hour after to “make up” for it because I started to feel bad. I dunno he’s usually really calm or at least calm compared to my mom. And this was so long ago.
My question is, is this someone who’s safe? I noticed he occasionally does yell at my mom but he never hits her. I feel like he would if he was really really really angry but I’m not sure if this is all parents or not