u/Big-Activity3350

I’m 22M never had a girlfriend. I’ve been told at work I’m good looking multiple times. But I really just don’t see it. And when I do see it and feel it I look in the mirror and if I don’t like what I see for a SPLIT second, i completely shell up and feel so unattractive. To the point of asking on Reddit how to improve how I look.
Ill be out with mates and feel good looking but the second I see someone who looks better i crash and go back to bad thoughts of myself.
I’ve almost trained myself to think only bad of myself. And its made me so insecure and I hate it so much. I just want to be happy with myself but I really can’t.

I’m 22M never had a girlfriend. I’ve been told at work I’m good looking multiple times. But I really just don’t see it. And when I do see it and feel it I look in the mirror and if I don’t like what I see for a SPLIT second, i completely shell up and feel so unattractive. To the point of asking on Reddit how to improve how I look.
Ill be out with mates and feel good looking but the second I see someone who looks better i crash and go back to bad thoughts of myself.
I’ve almost trained myself to think only bad of myself. And its made me so insecure and I hate it so much. I just want to be happy with myself but I really can’t.

I’m 22M never had a girlfriend. And I’ve always had an overthinking problem. But now it’s getting awful.
I had a situation with this girl at work where I overthought everything for 4 months until ultimately she ended the talking stage which I’m happy with ( wasn’t at the time) but I’m glad I’m not with her.

Now, I’m so desperate for that attention I got I’m trying to be girl’s favourite at work and ultimately I overthink everything thing I say and every situation I have with girls at work when they are my friends. And that’s all. But I put expectations on when I go into work such as I imagine scenarios in my head and when they don’t happen, I come home feeling extremely depressed. To the point where I’m nervous to come home because I know I’m going to overthink.

I really need help as I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to focus on myself a little more but it’s still very hard. I’m such a weak minded guy and I hate that about myself. It comes from insecurity, when I have no reason to be insecure as I’ve been told numerous amount of times I’m good looking, I just don’t see it.
Please any advice would be appreciated.