Alcoholism, How do I safeguard my parents even when they are not willing to
27M here 🖐🏻, Having an Elder Brother 30M who only drinks once or twice a week but whenever he drinks he will makesure of creating Huge Drama.
He’s been doing this heavily from past 6-7 years I had tried putting him in rehab (Parents din’t cooperate), Tried psycho counselling (Parents din’t cooperate).
He robs from my mom (but my mom says he is just taking money from her) promises of earning 3-4L per month, have not seen him getting a bigger paycheck than 60K (he is an AI engineer) but is not doing full time work.
Our Abusive dad always beats him when is drunk and both of my parents act as if nothing as happened the next day and move on with their lifes.
He even got a heart attack but it only slowed him for a few months before he came back to his 100% form.
No matter what I say to my parents they always keep supporting him and always are in the process of putting me out of the home if I question more and my mom will start saying suicidal things when I plan to move out.
I moved out once around 2023 or 2024, my mom was not eating food properly, she would cry daily, after 10 days my brother had promised to drink again which again lasted only for a few weeks.
My problem is not with his drinking habit, but his blackmailing, robing, taking my parents for granted behaviour, for example since a few months he’s been torturing my parents to get him married and my mom is dancing for his tunes, when he’s drunk he says he is drinking because my mom is not finding a girl for him, also asked my mom to make him marry our maid when he was drunk last time.
When he doesn’t drink he does not come out of his room, sits there, smokes there, only comes out for food or to go out.
I am fully tired and fully filled with anger on him, can I file a case against him ?
P.S - My parents would still support him only.
Initially when this started i have beaten him a lot until I moved out, after that I just stopped talking to him, he’s just a deadbeat for me, but everytime he drinks my moms health goes for a toss, her health has degraded a lot which has drained our pockets too.
Close to 15L medical expenses including his heart stint.
Though my parents are not asking money from me, I still give whatever I can which is draining me and now if I move out again
A) I will have to postpone the plot investment I was planning to do
B) Use my savings to fund my rent etc
Need to pay full price for a mistake I dint do, WTF