My partner keeps playing a game I am addicted to
Hello
My partner introduced me to a game : Mobile Legends Bang Bang 7 years ago. Since then, I had been compulsively playing it. Usually after a month or so I stop. But aftet a x number of months I reinstall it and play. I am very competitive. I have ADHD and the game triggers me and hooks me.My partner also plays the game periodically and gets bored after a while and forgets about it for months.
I told my partner that it s like somebody had an alcohol addiction and their partner kept drinking. I told him that our relationship cannot work if I cannot be functional in it.
He says that it s not his fault. I don t blame him. I tell him that this is just how addictions work. If you see it it retriggers you. He sees it as an excuse. He gets offended that our relationship "stays in one game/it s so fragile" It hurts me that he just takes it personally.
I told him to hide when he is playing. To say "he takes a long shower" or play so that I cannot see him.He can t. I understand that it s not easy to hide from playing a game in your own house. But i told him. If playing the game is important to you and seeing it triggers me we are not compatible. It s not that I am at fault or he is a fault. He ended up saying that I always develop addictions and I cannot be helped (reffering to the hyperfocusing people witgh adhd have on a certain topic for a while) (in the past months my hyperfocuses being - informing about Hymalayan Mountain, eating and cooking nutritious healthy meals, informing about hamster care, looking for clothes online. He just can t see that these activities didin t hold my glued to a screen while I cannot do anyhing else. I was still functional. I did my job, my house chores and we also hang out doing other stuff, going outside etc
Please share your opinion.
Thank you.