Met a buddy tonight at a taco shop we often to go (almost everyday). Nearly everyone in the neighborhood knows the spot and the owner, we all hang out there daily. The owner usually sits down and has a beer with us.
We were continuing a debate about politics (US / China relations). A woman comes in and sits next to me. I turn to her and say "Hey sorry we're having a really boring conversation, but happy to change topics if you want to join in on something"
She was clearly very drunk, so we humored her and then kept up on our debate. She cut in a few times about how we should have our own podcast. It all seemed like good fun.
But then she keept calling the owner by the wrong name. He didnt seem to mind. He's super nice.
I whispered to her after he went to another table "hey his name is David, not Danny" and she lost her shit. "I've been coming here for 2 years, I always call him danny". I did not care, but I guess part of me wanted to let her know his real name (this is the place where I think I might be the asshole?)
I felt a little bad because it did force David to tell her his name is actually not Danny and she got visibly angry.
Fast forward. She called a friend. Another person at our table called some friends to come hangout as well. We were about 10 at this point hanging out. I bought some beers for the table, including her and her friend (they wanted seltzers). It was all in good fun.
Her and her friend got in a very heated argument with another 2 girls at the table, about something I don't know (was still debating China with my friend I know I'm blind). The other 2 girls left. They left a lot of alcohol I had bought for them. My friend had to go home as well (non confrontational, not sure why he left). Eventually was just the 3 of us. I got up to leave, said bye to the owner, and was walking off.
Before I left we had discussed that we all lived nearby. The 2 girls asked if they could come to my jacuzzi and hang out (bro tbh am I going to say no?!). I had quite a bit of alcohol left and didn't have any bad feelings toward them so said ok. (do I not have a radar?)
We went to my building, got in the jacuzzi and had some drinks. We did some back and forth questions, which was all good n fun. It was clear that one of the girls was very into the other. I was a bit drunk and asked if they had ever slept together. They said no. One girl had a husband and kids, but was fine with me asking (all seemed good, maybe I have no read?)
The married girl keeps asking me how big my d* is. I did show a funny sign with my thumb and finger, but just laughed and changed subjects (also like ofc as a single guy I'm thinking goddamn am I in or what? Also I havent dated in years so no idea what this question even means)
She drinks a few more beers and starts asking why Danny didn't tell her his name was David. I said that he's just a nice guy. She smacked me in the mouth and said "no". I said "what? no he was just being nice, you shouldn't really obsess about it." She gets really mad at me, and says that it was an asshole move for him to not correct her on his name. I said well maybe you are just being an asshole and didn't hear all the other people say his name.
Big mistake. Immediately she said to her friend "I don't feel safe here, he's being creepy". I said "oh ok, well I'll leave, you guys can leave whenever you want" and got out of the jacuzzi, and got my stuff. I had to pee so i went into the bathroom.
I overhear them say "omg he's giving incel vibes. let's get out of here" while I was in the restroom.
I got out, and got my stuff and said "hey I'll leave, sorry I made you feel uncomfortable." The married girls says "so what are you going to do to make it up to me?"
I said "nothing" and took my stuff and left.
I'm trying to give this the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I really did something wrong (I don't date much at all)