I just wanted to leave this out there and get it off my chest, but feedback would be appreciated.
Me and my ex broke up about a week ago, after a two week period of where I was being ghosted, for what seemed like nothing happened prior. At this time I was sending her more messages than I should have especially when I was drunk and it pushed her away.
In all honesty we have had some issues about other people getting involved in the relationship, such as friends or family giving advice, I was at fault with this as someone I thought with a friend was asking if I was okay and I told him how I thought and then it got back to her.
We had a chat in person which lead to a breakup, this was not the first time we broke up. The first time was about 5 months ago when we had hsc and a build of pressure and I was saying stupid stuff or asking to hang out with her but it only lasted for 2 days. In the most recent break up talk we broke up and she mentioned things that really hit home for me such as, I don’t look forward to getting a text from you but also saying stuff like maybe if your still in love with me in a few months we can give it another go. We hugged and said I love you and goodbye.
The first week was really rough and I saw her out at a pub and we saw each other from across the venue, but didn’t interact. However the next day I sent a text saying, “Hey I saw you out hope you a good night , didn’t get a chance to say hi but how are you doing”. Which was left on read.
I do want to reach out but I’m figuring out if that’s where I’m really at. I do obviously love her still but at the time I believe the concept of talking but I have done that before and ask if there are issues. This time she followed through with the break up and said it would be hard but this is were we are at. Any advice would be appreciated, as I have seen a lot of insta info saying work on you’re self which I have been doing but also go no contact and they will come back.
Any advice or suggestions I would appreciate as I’m meant to be moving unis next year to the uni I originally wanted to go where she is at. I have been thinking about waiting a few weeks / months before sending a text but I am unsure.