u/Betta_Heart29

Hi mommies! I have this toxic tita na recently ay nakasagutan ko dahil sobrang punong puno na ako sa ugali niya. Now, i want to cut ties with that tita pero my mom, other tita and my grandma would guilt trip me na wag daw at masama ang nagtatanim ng sama ng loob, pati ang “utang na loob” card ginamit na sakin. But she’s super toxic and i don’t want my son to be around that negativity. Ayaw ko rin na tinuturuan niya ang anak ko na manakit at ginagawa niyang parang katatawanan ang manakit ng ibang tao.

Sinabi pa nila na wag ko nalang daw idamay ang bata at dapat daw ipakita ko parin. Ano kaya ang magandang gawin or sabihin if they insist?

I have an aunt(Tita R) who tends to be quite toxic. She’s unmarried and lives with my grandmother, and unfortunately, she often brings a lot of negativity into the household. Because of this, I’ve limited my visits over time.

Recently, another aunt (tita B) returned from abroad, and at first, everything was pleasant. We were all enjoying ourselves while she distributed pasalubong. I received two shirts for my husband, but tita R began making passive-aggressive remarks, implying that I had already taken too much. I tried to brush it off by saying “ang OA naman”, but she became irritated and continued making comments. Eventually, I chose to disengage, while she continued helping herself to more items, which made it seem like she wanted to receive most of the gifts.

Later, tita B glanced at me and smiled, signaling quietly. I leaned over and whispered “kabwisit kasi”, but unfortunately, the tita R overheard and started shouting at me, asking who I was referring to. At that point, my irritation got the better of me, and I responded directly, “ikaw yung bwisit ganyan kasi ugali mo kaya lahat bwisit sayo”. Although she was asked to go to her room, she continued speaking angrily.

After the incident, my grandmother and tita B spoke to me and advised me to be more understanding, ako na daw umintindi kasi ako ang mas bata and already aware of her personality.

I always have confrontation with tita R kasi habang iniintindi kasi siya lumalala siya. At napupuno rin ako. But they would always say na ako ang mas nakakabata at umintindi nalang. My mom would also bring up na mabait naman siya dati noong meron pa siya. At dahil pala sagot ako labeled ako as “maldita”.

Kakaumay talaga. Ang toxic ng filipino family.

I have an aunt(Tita R) who tends to be quite toxic. She’s unmarried and lives with my grandmother, and unfortunately, she often brings a lot of negativity into the household. Because of this, I’ve limited my visits over time.

Recently, another aunt (tita B) returned from abroad, and at first, everything was pleasant. We were all enjoying ourselves while she distributed pasalubong. I received two shirts for my husband, but tita R began making passive-aggressive remarks, implying that I had already taken too much. I tried to brush it off by saying “ang OA naman”, but she became irritated and continued making comments. Eventually, I chose to disengage, while she continued helping herself to more items, which made it seem like she wanted to receive most of the gifts.

Later, tita B glanced at me and smiled, signaling quietly. I leaned over and whispered “kabwisit kasi”, but unfortunately, the tita R overheard and started shouting at me, asking who I was referring to. At that point, my irritation got the better of me, and I responded directly, “ikaw yung bwisit ganyan kasi ugali mo kaya lahat bwisit sayo”. Although she was asked to go to her room, she continued speaking angrily.

After the incident, my grandmother and tita B spoke to me and advised me to be more understanding, ako na daw umintindi kasi ako ang mas bata and already aware of her personality.

I always have confrontation with tita R kasi habang iniintindi kasi siya lumalala siya. At napupuno rin ako. But they would always say na ako ang mas nakakabata at umintindi nalang. My mom would also bring up na mabait naman siya dati noong meron pa siya. At dahil pala sagot ako labeled ako as “maldita”.

Kakaumay talaga. Ang toxic ng filipino family.