I have been on tinder here and while I've definitely had some good experiences and met nice guys, the bad ones have been...heavy. I’m noticing a major pattern of that "Andrew Tate" superiority mindset lately and it's seriously giving predator energy. So hence my post here, reddit ppl I know you are judgemental, go ahead... but I need to put this out here.
I had several experiences with guys being way too pushy for something physical, and the second you set a boundary, the gaslighting starts. They try to make you feel "too prude" or ask why you are even on tinder if you aren't ready to fk immediately. I have also dealt with cheating and guys literally admitting they are just bored or "looking for new flavors" - as if we aren't even human. The hunt for new variety or body count - is this a symptom of dating apps and having too many choice? Does real interest or commitment still exist or is a collection of countries the goal nowawadays? Between that and being stood up (went to the meeting point and the guy asked to send a photo and then unmatched me on locaiton).. it’s just disrespectful. I don't want to even try anymore. And a situationship guy tormented my mental health. Saw another woman posting that as a comment, I feel you. And what about refusing condoms... no wonder lux has high percentage of sti's.
Here, I'm not trying to start drama but this is honest, but I would be more careful if you come across some tinder guy profiles (always trust your intuition). Can't call here names but I'm just done here.
And please redditors don't tell me I "choose" these types of guys.. on paper they seem like normal guys, the toxic stuff only comes out later. I know I’m not alone in this. As so many girls are having bad experiences as well.. not just on apps also in public harassment a lot, which is why we’re seeing more initiatives and groups popping up in Lux to protect women.
Just wanted to put this out there so we can look out for each other. Don't let them make you feel small for having basic standards. Yes, there are many married men or in relationship men looking. Maybe also women, I don't know. It's cringy. My experience is that guys from tinder rush from girl to girl, like no emotion. Swiping everything. I cannot call names but there were many guys who are like the alpha archetype..Misogyny is unfortunately very real here...